Mwedzi gumi nembiri inguva yakareba kwete kuita chimwe chinhu.
Kunyanya kana kudanana ndicho chinhu chausiri kuita.
Saka, nei uchirega?
Sezvo nyaya yangu ichienda, haigone kuve yakadarika masekondi 2.375 mushure mekunge ndapedza hukama hune chepfu hwandakaronga yangu yemwedzi gumi nemaviri pasina hurongwa hwekufambidzana. Kushungurudzwa kwekunyepedzera kwandakanga ndatsungirira kwainge kwoda kundipwanya uye ndaiziva kuti ndaida nguva yakakomba ndega.
Nekudaro, ndakaruma mazino angu, shamwari yakaenzanisirwa kunge kupenga, uye ndakagamuchira kupora.
Uye yaive Sarudzo yakanakisa yandati ndamboita. Chaizvoizvo, zvakandiitira kubata kuri nani nekuda kweshanduko dzemukati dzaimutsa.
Heano maitiro ekuzorora kubva mukufambidzana kunogona kukuita iwe kubata zviri nani kune wauchazoroora naye.
1. Regedza Tsika Dzako Dzinotsamira
Vakadzi vazhinji vanozviwana vari munzira ine hutsinye yekufambidzana nemhando imwechete yevanhurume vanoshusha. Ndakazviwana ndavharirwa mukutenderera uku, futi.
Zvisingashamisi, codependency ine midzi yayo mukuzvidzikisira. Zvinoenderana nePsychology Nhasi , imhando yekuzvipira maitiro isu isu vecodependents tinoda kuponesa yakaderera-inoshanda nhengo dzenzanga.
Pane kununura chero munhu, isu tinongozvikuvadza isu. Kunyangwe, kusiya iyi tsika yakaipa harisi iro basa riri nyore kuita.
Iyo huro dze kumisa maitiro anoenderana unzwe sekusagadzikana kusagadzikana. Zvakafanana nehutachiona hunokachidza iyo, kana yangotora bata, iwe unongofanirwa kurega kupfuura yako system.
Kubvisa zvachose tsika dzangu dzinoenderana nekodhi kunoda kuti ndiite tsika yekuzvitarisira ine hutano. Ini zvakare ndakadzidza kuchengetedza akasimba mamunhu miganhu panguva iyi.
pane izwi here rakasimba kudarika rudo
Pasina mubvunzo kutaura, kudzoreredza kusununguka kwangu kwepamoyo kwakanyatsoitwa apo ini ndakanga ndisina kuroora. Shure kwezvose, hupenyu hwega akanditendera kuti ndizvitarise pachangu ndisinganyadziswe.
2. Gamuchira Kuporesa Kupfuura Noga Nguva
Kunyange chiri chokwadi kuti ma introver uye extroverts anomutsiridzwa nenzira dzakasiyana, kupora kunowanzoitika nenzira imwechete - newe wega.
Pamwe iwe wakafananidzira wemwedzi gumi nemaviri yekufambidzana nesabata senge refu, chinyararire kufamba nepaseji yemamonk. Asi, zvine ruzha kupfuura izvozvo - pfungwa dzako, zvirinani.
Mavhiki nemwedzi zvinotevera hukama hune chepfu zvinonyanya kupesana neiyo monastery mukoridho. Kuva wega ndeimwe yekuvhunduka kukuru kune yako system. Iko 'kunyarara kuri kuvharira' mhando yechinhu.
Muhukama hune chepfu, pfungwa dzako dzinogara dzichidzoserwa kune izvo zvisina kunaka newe.
Kana imwe yako inotyisa-wawakaroorana naye anyaradzwa neisina-kuonana (kana kushoma kuonana) kurambana, pfungwa dzako dzinozvisvibisa dzinopa nzira kunguva nyowani.
Munguva ino, iwe unopihwa mukana wekuzvionazve uye kutarisisa kune ako akambofuratirwa epamoyo tsika. Imhando yemutambo we 'welcome back' wega.
3. Dzorera patsva Bonde rako
Pfungwa ye kuwana hukama hwepedyo kubudikidza nebonde zvinorehwa zvakanyanya, asi hazviwanzo kudaro. Dzimwe nguva, bonde rinongova bonde. Kazhinji, haina chinhu uye inoshaya iyo yepedyo yepedyo.
Muhupenyu hwese hwehupenyu, kunyanya muhukama husina hutano, bonde rinogona kuve rakaomarara uye kutovhiringidza. Kunyangwe ichiitirwa kuve hukama hwakakosha pakati pevanhu vaviri, inogona kazhinji kuve zano.
Kwemwedzi yakawanda ini ndakazvipira kune iyo pfungwa yekuti ndinogona kuve asexual. Pakanga pasina zvachose zvekuita zvepabonde kana inkling mukati mangu. Ndakanzwa kurasika.
Maererano neWomen's Health , kushoma pabonde kwauinako, kushoma kwaunoda. Saka, kunzwa uku kwaive kwakajairika mumamiriro angu ezvinhu.
Mushure mekuzvibvumira kuti ndipore kubva pahukama husina kunaka, ndakatanga kumutsa kune iyo pfungwa yehukama hwepabonde zvakare. Chete pandakazvipa nzvimbo yekumbundira kudanana kwechokwadi ndipo pandingazowana nzvimbo bonde rakaitirwa muhukama hwakanaka.
Izvi hazvina kungoita kuti ndiwedzere kushingairira mune zvangu zvebonde semukadzi, asi zvakaratidza chivimbo chakange chandiregedza kwenguva refu mudhipatimendi iri.
4. Wedzera Kukosha Kwako Kuburikidza neKuzvida-Iwe
Ndakatora pikicha yangu pachangu yemunyori rinenge mwedzi ndisati ndapedza hukama hwangu hune chepfu. Kunyangwe ndaiyedza kunyemwerera, zvaitaridzika senge girama rinobwinya.
Ini zvachose handina kuziva munhu ari mumufananidzo. Hazvaigona ini.
Kunze kwekuti zvaive.
Kuva muhukama hune chepfu kunogona kukanganisa hutano hwako. Mumwe munhu anomushungurudza anogadzira kushushikana kwakanyanya nemaitiro avo ekunyengera. Iwe unonzwa kushushikana uku mumuviri wako 24/7.
Kana hukama hune chepfu hukapera, iwe unoda yakawanda yekuzvitarisira-uye yekuzvida-rudo. Zvakakosha kupa nguva yeimwe TLC yakanonoka iwe pachako.
Kugadzira hutano hwakanaka hwekuzvichengeta zvinoreva kubvumira zvinhu muhupenyu hwako zvinoita kuti unzwe kutarisirwa. Izvi zvinogona kureva kuti uzvipe maminetsi makumi matatu ekufamba kwemazuva ese, nguva yekuverenga bhuku, kana kuzvitaurisa kuburikidza nehunyanzvi.
Mushure mechinguva chidiki chekuzviratidza chimwe chinodikanwa chaicho, ndakatanga kuziva kumeso kwakatarisa kumashure kwandiri mugirazi.
Mirror, girazi pamadziro… ndatenda nekurembera imomo neni.
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5. Ongorora Zvaunokoshesa Kuti Uve Mari Yakachengeteka
Hukama pakati pekuchengetedzeka kwemari uye a hukama hwakanaka haisi kujeka nguva dzose. Asi, hukama pakati pehukama hune chepfu uye kuparara kwemari kwakanyatsojeka.
Zvakawanda sekusaguma kusingagumi kuyedza uye kuzvishandura iwe kune wako ane chepfu, unogona kunge wakamboedza kuvafadza nedzimwe nzira. Sezvinei, nzira dzemari.
Hazvishamisi kurasikirwa nekudzora kwemari yako pachako kana kutopa mari yako chengetedzo zvachose.
Muchiitiko changu, ini ndakanga ndichinyura mune yake isingagutsike chishuwo chekudyisa kupindwa muropa (akati wandei chaizvo). Kubata kwekutsvagisa chingwa kwakawira pandiri nepo imwe hafu yehukama hwangu yaive yemahara uye yakajeka chero mutoro wezvemari chero.
Mumwe wangu paakange abuda kunze kwemufananidzo, zvakazova zvinorwadza pachena kuti ndiye chimwe chezvikonzero zvikuru zvandaive ndichikuvadza mari zvakanyanya. Ini zvakare ndakakwanisa kutarisa kudzikama kwangu ndega uye kudzikisira mamiriro angu emari.
6. Ipa Iwo Iwo Anodzora Freak Hunhu
Zvichida zvinouya sekusishamise kuti kuva muhukama hune chepfu kazhinji kunoreva kuve munhu akabatwa narcissist uye anodzora munhu. Chikamu chinoshamisira nezve izvi ndechekuti maitiro ekudzora anowanzo kuwanda mukuzviona kwako.
Mune mamwe mazwi, mumwe wako ane chepfu anoda kuti iwe uchinje nekuda kwehuwandu hwako 'husina kukwana' Pfungwa yacho ndeyekuti: dai chete iwe ukachinja, hukama hwacho hwaizokura.
Sezvaungangove uchiziva parizvino, iko kukanganisa iko kuri mukati mechimiro uye kwete iwe.
Mushure mekunge hukama hwapera, iwe unomira kuyedza kuzvichinja nekuda kwavo. Iwe unorega iko kuda kuti uve mudiwa akakwana uye asina chaanoperera munhu. Unosisira kudzora.
Panzvimbo pekuibata yese mukati iwe uchifamba pamazai emazai wakakomberedza mumwe wako, iwe unonyura pasi pasi mune ako mapijama uye unongonzwa kurova kwemoyo wako kekutanga kwenguva refu.
Iwe unongovapo.
Uye zvinonzwa zvakanaka kuve zvishoma zvisina kukwana.
7. Gadzira Denderedzwa Rakasimba Reshamwari
Icho chakapihwa chakapihwa icho chaunobatanidzwazve neshamwari mushure kurambana uye kunyanya paunotora zororo kubva murudo. Muchokwadi, zvakajairika uye zvine hutano.
Chandakanga ndisingazive ndechekuti yakawanda sei yekutarisisa kufambidzana kwangu nesabata kunenge kuri kune humwe hukama hwangu. Shannon Thomas anotsanangura kudiwa kwekumisikidza miganho ine hutano mubhuku rake Kurapa Kubva Mukushungurudzwa Kakavanzika .
Ndakashongedzwa neruzivo urwu, ini ndakakwanisa kuita yakachena yekutsvaira yeedu denderedzwa reshamwari. Izvo zvandakaguma nazvo zvine hushoma shamwari dzepedyo dzaive pasina mubvunzo mukona yangu.
Chero ani zvake akange ayambuka kana kutopfimba neyangu miganhu yako anga ari panze. Ini ndaingo chengeta zvakanakisa zveakanakisa mudenderedzwa rangu remukati.
Pfungwa yekuseri kwekutsvaira kwakachena yaive yekumisikidza bhendi rehama / hanzvadzi dzaive nemusana wangu zvisinei nehupenyu hwaindiratidza.
8. Kusiya Kushushikana Kunoenderana NezveRudo
Zviri nyore kududzira zvisirizvo mutambo wekuda. Mushure mezvose, ivo vari vaviri vanonakidza uye vanounza kukurumidza kweadrenaline.
Semunyori wehutano hwepfungwa, ini ndoda kudaidzira kubva kumatenga edzimba izvo tsitsi dzinonzwira tsitsi dzave dzichitiudza nguva yese iyi.
Dhiramu haisi chishuwo. Mutambo unounza kushushikana. Sezvazvinoitika, kushushikana hakuna nzvimbo yekusingaperi muhukama hwepabonde. Hukama hwakawandisa hune huturu hunobata mumwe mudanho zvachose-kana-nendege nzira.
Iyi nzira yekurarama inova inopona inova inorarama zvishoma iyo inova inotarisa mugirazi uye isingazive iwe pachako kuratidzwa.
Detoxing uye kugadzirisa yako autonomic nervous system ndiyo chete nzira yekudzoka kubva kune inotyisa mutambo wekutambudzika.
Kufema kwakadzika kurovedza muviri, kusimbiswa, uye iyo yoga yaive yangu anchor kusvika ikozvino. Chinotsigisa chandichabatirira pahupenyu hunodiwa.
Iyo Yekutora Ekumusha Mharidzo
Izvo zvinhu zvandakadzidza mukati megore rangu-refu rekufambidzana nesabata zvese zvaive zvakakosha zvidzidzo zvehupenyu izvo pasina mubvunzo zvakaita kuti ndibate zvirinani kune wandaizoroora naye.
Yakanga isiri iyo kusvika pandakawana ino nguva yekushandura pandainzwa kusimba pamweya uye ndakasununguka. Kushanda kwangu kwemukati iko zvino kwakaenderana neangu ekunze dhiraivha yehupenyu. Uyezve, shanduko idzi dzaive dzechigarire.
Ndinofungidzira iwe ungataura kuti kuzorora kwangu kubva pakudanana kwakaratidza kuva mutsetse wandisina kuziva kuti ndaida.
Asi, kana hupenyu hukakupa mukana, chakanakisa kuita kutora chinetso nemoyo wese.
