Iwe unoona here kuti vanhu vanowanzo taura nezve ivo, kutanga uye kunyanya?
Kana kuti pamwe wakanganisa munhu nekusaziva nekugovana chiitiko chako pavanga vachiedza kugovana zvavo nyaya newe?
Nyanzvi yezvematongerwo enyika Charles Derber akapa hunhu uyu zita - narcissism yekukurukurirana.
Kunyangwe iri tsika isinganzwisisike uye isingazive, narcissism yekukurukura chishuwo chekutora nhaurirano, ita hurukuro zhinji, uye shandura pfungwa dzehurukuro iwe pachako.
Derber anozvitenda ichiva, 'kuratidzwa kwakakosha kwehunyanzvi hwekuwana pfungwa muAmerica.'
kutaura sei kune zvakasikwa kuti uwane zvaunoda
Iyo hurukuro yakafanana nemutambo wekubata. Munhu ane bhora anorikanda kune rimwe vozokanda bhora kumashure.
Kutaurirana kwakanaka kunowanzo shanda nenzira imwe chete. Mumwe munhu anozopa uyezve munhu wavari kutaura naye achapa zvakare. Iwo mapato maviri anokanda bhora ravo rekufananidzira neshure.
Asi vanhu vane wired yekutaura nezve ivo kana kunyange vechitatu mapato avo vasipo kupfuura munhu wavari kutamba kubata naye[Poshi].
Chikonzero ndechekuti kana munhu akanzwa nyaya, pfungwa dzake dzinotanga kutsvaga zviitiko zvaakave nazvo izvo zvinogona kubatsira kugadzirisa izvo zvaari kunzwa.
Dambudziko nderekuti zviitiko zvedu pachedu uye mamiriro ezvinhu anogona kunge asingakoshe kune mumwe munhu kana zvakaitika kwavari.
Tine akasiyana manzwiro nharaunda. Uye kutaura chimwe chinhu senge, 'ndinonzwisisa.' kuita kusvetuka kukuru uye kufunga nezvekuti munhu iyeye anonzwa sei uye anoona kwavo ruzivo.
Zvinogona kutuka uye kukuvadza, zvinoenderana nekuomarara kwechinhu chiri kutaurwa nezvacho.
Zvinotoshamisa kuti kutaura nezvako pachako kunokonzeresa zvikamu zvakafanana zvehuropi zvine chekuita nemufaro uye mubairo[piri].
Uropi hunosangana nemhando imwechete yemafaro kubva mukutaura nezvako sezvainoita kubva pakudya chikafu kana kuita bonde.
Saka zvine musoro kuti isu tinongoerekana takwevera kune urwu rudzi rwehunhu, kwete chete nekunakidzwa uye mubairo chikamu chehuropi hwedu huchipfura, asi chishuwo chekuve akanaka uye anotsigira munhu kune vanhu vatine hanya navo.
zvekutaura kune mumwe munhu achipfuura nekurambana
Nhau dzakanaka ndedzekuti kutaurirana narcissism hunhu hwatinogona kushandira kudzora mukati medu. Kuti tichinje hunhu, isu tinofanirwa kutanga takwanisa kuzviziva.
Mienzaniso Yekukurukurirana Narcissism Mukuita
Kukurukurirana narcissism ndeye munhu anounza hurukuro kumashure kuti ape munhu uyu mukana wekuti ataure nezvake.
Asi zvinoita sei?
Imwe yeiyi mienzaniso inotevera inoratidza nzira idzo munhu dzaanogona kutonga hurukuro nekuidzosa kwavari, manzwiro avo, uye neruzivo rwavo.
Muenzaniso 1
Tete vaJohn vakamurera kubva panguva yaaive mukomana mudiki. Anopfuura. Achitambanudzira rutsigiro, anoudza shamwari yake Adam, 'Hei, ndiri pasi chaizvo izvozvi. Mainini vangu vashaya. ”
Adam, achida kutsigira, anotarisa kuti awane nzvimbo yaanowirirana naJohn nekutaura nekurasikirwa nekwake, 'Ndinonzwisisa zvaunoreva. Baba vangu pavakashaya, ndainzwa kunge zvinhu zvese zvamira pasi… ”
Muenzaniso 2
'Ndichangobva kukwidziridzwa kubasa!' Amber anodanidzira kuna Jennifer. 'Ndiri kuzova purojekiti kutarisira pane kungoshanda mukati mebasa!'
'Zvikuru izvo!' Jennifer anopindura. “Ndinoshuva dai ndaiva nerombo rakadai pabasa rangu ndega. Mukuru wangu webasa ari kutsungirira uye ini handichaite kunge ndichiita chero chinhu munguva pfupi yapfuura. 'Ndinofunga ndinogona kutanga kutsvaga basa.'
Muenzaniso 3
'Saka unoita basa rei?' Jason anobvunza Stacy.
'Oo, ndinoshanda semukadzi mutengesi panzvimbo inotengesa mota.'
“Chokwadi? Vatengesi vemotokari vane mumvuri kwazvo. Ndakaedza kutenga mota kubva panzvimbo ino uye zvese zvavakaita kundipa kumhanya-mhanya pamatemu uye kubhadhara. Uye patakazopedza kuita izvozvo, mota yakazova ndimu! ”
Unogona zvakare kuda (chinyorwa chinoenderera pazasi):
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Maitiro Ekumisa Kutaurirana Narcissism Uye Mira Kutaura Nezve Iwe
Tichitarisa iyo mienzaniso yakasiyana, tinogona kuona kuti munhu ari kutaurwa naye ari kudhiridzira hurukuro yacho kwavari, pane kupa wavanotaura naye nzvimbo yavanoda kuti vapedze pfungwa dzavo nemanzwiro avo.
MuMuenzaniso 1, Adam ari kuyedza kuve shamwari yakanaka nekutsvaga mvumo naJohn nezvekurasikirwa kwatete vake.
NaJohn ari munzvimbo yakaoma mupfungwa, anogona kududzira zviito zveshamwari yake sekunyevenutsa marwadzo ake kana sekunge kuti Adam haawanikwe kuti vamunzwe.
Adam anogona zvirokwazvo kufunga kumashure kune kwake kurasikirwa kuti afunge zvirinani kurwadziwa kweshamwari yake, asi nzira iri nani ndeyekuti ataure chimwe chinhu chakadai, 'Ndine hurombo kunzwa nezve kurasikirwa kwako. Unoda kutaura nezvazvo? ” Uye ingova ipapo shamwari yake.
MuMuenzaniso 2, Amber anofara nezve kusimudzirwa kwake uye shanduko pabasa rake.
Jennifer, uyo ari kuwana nguva yakaoma pabasa rake, asingazivi anounza hurukuro kwaari nekushandisa mukana wekuburitsa kushungurudzika kwake, nekudaro achifukidza mufaro waAmber uye kugona.
Dambudziko riri pachena nemufambiro uyu nderekuti Jennifer ari kusaziva achiudza Amber kuti haana hanya nemufaro waAmber uye anoona matambudziko ake seakanyanya kukosha.
Maitiro ari nani angave ekuti Jennifer abvume uye apemberere zvaitwa neshamwari yake. Kana achida kutaura nezve rake basa, zvingave zviri nani kuti amirire imwe nguva zvachose kuti azviite.
MuMuenzaniso 3, Jason ari kungoteerera Stacy kuti awane mukana wakakodzera wekutaura nezvake.
Mhinduro yake kushevedzo yake yakasarudzika ndeyekuzvifunga nekuti zvese zviri pamusoro pake uye neruzivo rwake rwakaipa nekutenga mota pane isinganetseke yekutengesa.
Nzira yakapusa kuna Jason yekugadzirisa maitiro ake ndeyekuisa yake yega yakaipa ruzivo padivi otarisa pane zvakaitika kuna Stacy.
Iye anogona nyore kubvunza mimwe inogonesa mibvunzo kumupa yakawanda nzvimbo yekutaura nezve rake basa. Mibvunzo yakaita seiyi: 'Sei wafunga kuenda mumutsara webasa?' 'Chii chakafanana nekushanda pakutengesa mota?' 'Chii chaunofarira nezvebasa rako?'
rega kupa vamwe mhosva yekukanganisa kwako
Kiyi yekudzora wega kutaurirana narcissism kugona kuziva ako maitiro uye maitiro mune ako hurukuro.
Pane here nguva dzaunotsamwisa mumwe munhu nekuti aisanzwa sekunge waivateerera? Kana kuti wanga uchifukidzira ruzivo rwavo?
Wati wambosiya hurukuro usati wanyatsotaura nezvemumwe munhu mune chero hukuru hwakanyanya?
Iwe unowanzo chengetedza hurukuro ne nyaya mushure nyaya pamusoro pezviitiko zvako?
Izvo zvakakwana kudhirowa kubva kune ako ezviitiko zvechirevo neruzivo rwekuwedzera, asi kazhinji zano rakanaka kuti usataure nezve ako ega zviitiko zvakadzama.
Kunze kwekunge iwe uchitaura kune mumwe wako kana shamwari yepamwoyo uye imi mumwe nemumwe muchida kupa imwe nguva kuburitsa matambudziko avo - pane yakaenzana hwaro.
Maitiro Ekuita Nevanhu Vanotonga Kukurukurirana
Kutaura kune wekukurukura narcissist inyaya yakasiyana zvachose.
Unogona kuzviwana usisakwanise kuwana izwi nenzira yekumusoro sezvo ivo vachigara vachiedza kudhonza hurukuro kuti vadzokere kwavari!
Chinhu chakanyanya kukosha kuti unzwisise nezve narcissism yekukurukurirana ndeyekuti vanhu vazhinji havazive kuti vari kuzviita.
Ingori mhedzisiro yechimiro chematauriro atinoita uye nemagariro edu kubata nekunakisisa kuwana.
Kutaurirana kwakanangana nezvehunhu kazhinji ndiyo nzira yakanak yekumisidzana nayo.
Kana munhu akaramba achikucheka-cheka kana kudzosera pfungwa kwaari, zvisimbise uye uvabvunze kana vachiziva kuti vari kudzorera hurukuro yacho kwavari pachinzvimbo chekutaurirana newe.
Iye munhu asingazive kuti vari kuzviita asi ari kungoedza kuve shamwari yakanaka vanovimba vanozonzwa chirevo ichocho vozogadzirisa maitiro avo.
Kune rimwe divi, iwe unogona kuona kuti ivo havana basa chaizvo kana havafunge kuti zvauri kutaura zvakakosha, uye iwe uchaziva kuti usazvinetse nekuita hurukuro idzodzo navo kana kutarisira kuti vatarisire.
sei kunyora chokwadi nezvako
Iwe haugone kumanikidza mumwe munhu kuve nehanya kana kushandura izvo zvisingade. Iko hakuna chikonzero mukutambisa akakosha emanzwiro simba pakuedza kuzvichinja.
Zvinyorwa:
Poshi. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF02912493
piri. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-neuroscience-of-everybody-favorite-topic-them ones/
