Nzira Yokuchengeta Nayo Kukurukurirana Kuenda: 12 Hapana Matipi Asina Kufanira!

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Kushoma kwekudyidzana kwenzanga kunofadza kupfuura hurukuro yakatambanuka, iine zvese zvakasarudzika zvisikwa.



Hazvina basa kuti uri kutaura nevadikani, shamwari, vaunoshanda navo, kana kunyangwe vanhu vakasarudzika vaunosangana navo muhupenyu.

Nhaurirano inonakidza inodzikamisa zvakasununguka kubva kumusoro wenyaya kuenda kumusoro nenyaya nekusasa kwekuseka pano nepapo, uye pamwe kunyangwe danho rekunyongana kunatsa zvinhu zvishoma zvishoma (kana zvakakodzera!).



Kutaurirana kwakadai kunoita kuti iwo endorphin ayerere uye anogona kukusiya iwe uchirova mumhepo inopisa yekutsinhana kweimwe nguva mushure.

Kune rimwe divi, mamiriro ekumashure anogona kutyisa…

… Nhaurirano inogumburwa kubva kune imwe inonetsa kuchinjana kuenda kune imwe pasina kuyerera, akawanda akafa magumo, uye avo vanotya uye vanoita seasingapere 'tumbleweed' nguva.

Iyo inotevera-mhedzisiro yechiitiko chakadai chinogona kugara kwenguva refu mundangariro dzako.

Ngatifungei mamwe marongero aungakwanise kushandisa kuti hurukuro irambe ichiyerera uye zvinyararire zvisinganetsi kusvika padiki.

Iwe uchaona zvakare kuti aya matekiniki anobatsira kusimbisazve nhaurirano kana nhanho ichitanga kunonoka uye isati yagaya kumwe isingadzivisike uye o-saka-isina kumira.

Saka, unoita sei kuti hurukuro ienderere mberi?

1. Usambofa Wakarerutsa Kukosha KweKutaurirana Kudiki

Kunyangwe mutsika zhinji pfungwa yechiti chat pamusoro penyaya dzisingakoshe senge mamiriro ekunze kana mutambo unoonekwa sekuparadza nguva, isu vatauri vechiRungu vanoshandisa hurukuro diki senzira yekutaurirana.

Zvinotibvumidza isu kuti tiite icho chaicho chinhu chevanhu chekuyedza mumwe munhu uye kuwana zano reizvo zvinoita kuti vafare.

Iyo pakupedzisira inobvumidza hurukuro kuti ikure zvakasununguka sezvo hukama pakati pevatauri hwakagadzwa kutanga uye zvishoma nezvishoma kudzika.

Misoro isingadzorwe uye kazhinji inodzokororwa yenyaya dzehurukuro diki - unogara kupi, unoitei, mamiriro ekunze, mutambo, nezvimwe - batsira mapato ese kuzorora uye kuve ivo vega.

Kana iwe wapedza imwe nguva kusvika pakuziva mumwe munhu kuburikidza nehurukuro diki, pane mukana mushoma weavo vasina kunyararira kunyararira kunovandudza apo hurukuro inoenderera.

2. Sarudza Zvidzidzo Zvaunoziva Iwe Mumwe Munhu Zvinowana Zvinonakidza

Imwe yemabhenefiti emaminetsi mashoma 'hurukuro diki ndeyekuti zvinokubatsira iwe kuyera zvavanoda nezvaasingadi.

Sezvo vanhu vazhinji vachida kutaura pamusoro pavo, unogona kuita kuti hurukuro ienderere nekubvunza mibvunzo yakadzama pane misoro iyo inogona kunge yakatobatwa kare.

Semuenzaniso, kutaurirana kudiki pamusoro pemamiriro ekunze kunogona kutungamira kune nhaurirano nezverwendo rwekuchanya kuchangobva kuitika kana fungidziro yemhepo inopisa pamwe nemhedzisiro yayo.

3. Ita Kuti Uve Nekubvunza 'Vhura' Mibvunzo

Kana zvasvika pakupinda zvakadzama mune chero chidzidzo, nzira yaunomisa mibvunzo yako ndiyo kiyi yekubudirira.

Hapana imwe nzira iri nani yekutaurirana isina kunetsa pane kubvunza mibvunzo inobvumidza 'hongu' kana 'kwete' mhinduro.

Neizvi, ndinoreva kunzvenga mibvunzo yakaita seiyi:

murume akatsamwa anondipa mhosva pane zvese

'Saka, wakaenda kuCosta Rica pazororo gore rapfuura?'

Pane kudaro, edza mubvunzo wakavhurika senge:

“Wataura kuti wakaenda kuCosta Rica gore rapfuura. Mamiriro ekunze / gungwa / mhuka dzesango zvaive zvakaita sei? ”

Mubvunzo wakavhurika unopa mukana wekuti mumwe munhu atsanangure uyezve, izvo zvinozotungamira kune mimwe mibvunzo uye netariro kuvhura mupendero wakakura wekukurukurirana.

Zano repamusoro rekuona kuti unochengeta mibvunzo yako 'rakavhurika' ndere kutanga nei, kupi, riini, nei, ndiani, kana sei.

Zvese hazvina kurasikirwa kana ukazopedzisira wabvunza mubvunzo wekuti 'hongu / kwete' unogona kupora zviri nyore nekukumbira rumwe ruzivo, uchitaura chakadai.

“Ndinoda kuziva zvakawanda. Mungandiudza here zvakawanda pamusoro pe…? ”

4. Zvino Tora Iyo Kukurukurirana Kuenda kune Yakadzika Chikamu

Kana hurukuro diki yaita basa rayo, iro basa rekutaura kwakanaka kutora hurukuro pamberi nekubvunza mibvunzo yakawanda yekuongorora.

Kana iwe watobvunza kuti 'Unogara kupi?', Unogona kuenderera mberi uchibvunza 'Sei wafudira ipapo?'

Muchokwadi, 'nei' mibvunzo yakanaka kana iwe uchida kuchera zvakadzika zvishoma nekuvandudza hurukuro.

Izwi renyevero panguva ino: kana mibvunzo yacho yawedzera kuva yehukama uye yepedyo, ita shuwa kuti iwe unoteerera kune chero zvinyowani zvekusagadzikana.

Kana mumwe munhu achiratidzika senge asina kugadzikana, ita shuwa yekudzosera kumashure uye kudzoka kune ivhu rakachengeteka nemibvunzo isingapindike, isina kwayakarerekera.

5. Nyatsoteerera

Pane chikonzero chidiki pakubvunza iyo yese yakanaka mibvunzo yakavhurika-mibvunzo kana iwe zviri pachena kuti hauna kuteerera mhinduro.

Shandisa nzira yekuteerera kushingaira, kuti ugone kunyatsonzwisisa maonero emumwe munhu.

Usakanganisa uye, kana vapedza kutaura, enda unoenda muchidimbu zvavakataura kuratidza zvechokwadi kuti wanga uchiteerera…

'Kana ndawana izvi zvakanaka, zvinoita sewe ...'

Uye kana iwe uchida kujekeswa nekuti iwe wakanzwisisa chimwe chinhu, edza chimwe chinhu senge…

“Uri kuti…?”

Kana wanga uchinyatsoteerera, iwe unogona zvakare kuratidza kunzwira tsitsi nekuzviisa iwe mushangu yemutauri.

Muteereri akanaka chaizvo anenge akanyatsogadzirira kuita kuti hurukuro ienderere mberi apo nhanho inononoka uye kufarira kunoita sekuderera.

Semuenzaniso, misoro ingangodaro yakabatwa pamusoro pekutanga muhurukuro inogona kudzoserwa mukutamba nemubvunzo wakaita se:

'Wambotaura nezvazvo…'

Izvi zvinowanzo vhura mukana weimwe hurukuro.

Unogona zvakare kuda (chinyorwa chinoenderera pazasi):

6. Ratidza Iwe Unopindirana Nezvavari Kutaura

Muteereri akanaka chaizvo haangoregi ruzivo chete.

Kunyangwe zvingave zvisina hunhu kupindira, ita shuwa kuratidza kubatikana nezviri kutaurwa nevamwe nekushandisa 'zvinokurudzira' senge 'Chaizvoizvo?' (pasina kutsvinya!), 'Ah' uye 'Ah.'

Iwe unogona kushandisa zvisiri zvekutaura zvinokurudzira zvakare, sekuratidzira kumeso kwechimiro chemutauri nekutarisa kushamisika kana kugumbuka sezvakakodzera.

7. Shandisa Maziso Ako Kutaridza Kufarira Kwako Pane Zvavari Kutaura

Ramba uchitarisana nemunhu sezvo hurukuro ichiyerera pamwe ichi chiri chimwe chiratidzo cheyero yekutarisisa kwako.

Gara uchitarisana nemaziso pakutanga kwehurukuro uye wozoichengeta nekutarisa mumaziso emumwe munhu kweanenge masekondi mana kana mashanu ...

… Kwete kwenguva yakareba kana kuti uchave munjodzi yekuvabuditsa kunze, saka ive shuwa yekutarisa kure.

Nepo maziso ako akadzivirirwa, ita shuwa kuti hautarise zvakanyanya kune vamwe vanhu kana zvinhu, zvakadaro, nekuti izvo zvinogona kuratidza kusatarisira.

Wobva wamisazve kusangana kwemeso mushure memasekondi mashoma.

Chiyero chakaringana ndechekutarisa kusangana kwemaziso kweanenge 50% yenguva iwe paunenge uchitaura uye 70% yenguva iwe paunenge uchiteerera.

Zvichida zvinoita sekusanzwisisika kuzvideredza kuita fomula, asi ndiyo nzira iri nyore yekurangarira kuwanda kwekutarisana nemaziso pasina kukundisa.

8. Tarisa Zvinotaurwa Nemutauro Wako Wemuviri

Kutaurirana kwakanaka hakusi kwese kutaura! Pane zvakawanda zvekusataura nemazwi zvinoenderera mukudyidzana kwevanhu uye nemitauro yakanaka yemuviri ndiyo kiyi yekuzorora, kugadzikana kwekutsinhana.

Kana iwe ukagara kana kumira wakasimba, semuenzaniso, izvo zvinogona kuita kuti mumwe munhu anzwe kusagadzikana.

Edza kusendamira kumashure zvishoma pachigaro chako, uye usakanganwe kuwedzera kunyemwerera zvinyoro (kwete kuzara-kuseka, kunyangwe - kunze kwekunge zvakakodzera!).

Kana iwe wakamira, saka kuzembera wakasununguka pabhawa kana madziro ane maitiro akafanana.

O, uye usakanganwa kuchengeta iwo mapendekete pasi - hapana chinhu chinoratidza kukakavara zvakanyanya kupfuura kuve nemapendekete ako kumusoro kwenzeve dzako!

9. Kuseka Kudiki Kunofamba Nzira Yakareba

Hapana mubvunzo kuti kuseka kudiki kunobatsira chero kutaurirana pamwe, kwete zvirinani nekuti zvinobatsira kuvaka hukama hwakanaka uye kugadzira pfungwa yehukama.

Haasi munhu wese mutambi mukuru, saka usamanikidze.

Iwe haufanire kukwenya kutaurirana kwako nenjere imwe-liners kana kutotaura majee. Yekutsoropodza-yakatarwa nguva yekutsvinya kana yekuzvidzikisira kutaura kunogona kusimudza kuseka futi.

10. Kunyarara Kunogona Kuva Kwegoridhe Chaiko

Zvakanaka, saka ini ndakatanga chidimbu ichi ndichitaura nezvenguva dzakaumbuka apo zvinyararire zvinyararire zvinoparadzanisa hurukuro uye ndokuiuraya ibwe rakafa.

Muzvokwadi, zvakadaro, iwe haufanire kutya kunyarara pano neapo.

Kunyarara chikamu chakakosha cheunyanzvi hwekutaura. Kuziva nguva yekutaura uye nguva yekusareva hunyanzvi hwakakosha hunoda kudzidziswa intuitively.

Kune nyika yemusiyano pakati pekunyarara kusanzwisisika uye kumbomira kwemasekondi mashoma mukukurukurirana.

Iyo yekupedzisira ndeye chaiyo yakasarudzika, saka usavhunduka pazvinoitika. Usanzwe kuti unofanirwa kuburitsa chimwe chinhu - chero chinhu! - mukusuwa kuzadza nzvimbo.

Inogona kukupa iwe mukana wekuunganidza pfungwa dzako. Inogona zvakare kuratidza kuti musoro wenyaya wasvika pamagumo echisikigo kana wave tad yakanyanyisa kunyaradzwa uye inobvumidza shanduko yekubata.

11. Kukanganisa kusingadiwi

Zvese zviri nyore kutaura chinhu chinokonzeresa kukanganisa mukati mehurukuro, kunyangwe pazvakange zvisina kumbofungidzirwa nenzira iyoyo.

Kutaura chimwe chinhu chisina kukodzera kana kusava nehanya kunokanda hurukuro kubva muchiyero uye kunogadzira kusagadzikana uko kwakaoma kupora kubva.

Maitiro akanakisa nguva dzose kutarisana nawo, kuupa zita, uye kufambira mberi.

Usaedze kuita sezvisina kumboitika. Iyo inzira yechokwadi yekudzamisa kukuvara uye kuunza hurukuro kumugumo usina kugadzikana uye usati wakurumidza.

12. Ramba Uchienderana Nezvino Zvazvino

Kana iwe ukaita nhamburiko yekuramba uri pamusoro pezviri kuitika munyika nepasi rose, kubva kune makuhwa ane mukurumbira kusvika kunetsa dzekushanduka kwemamiriro ekunze, iwe unogara uine seam yakapfuma yemisoro yekuita kuti hurukuro ienderere mberi.

Izwi rezano kunyangwe: kana iwe uine vanhu vausingazive, zvinogara zvine hungwaru kurega zvematongerwo enyika zvematongerwo enyika uye nyaya dzechitendero nekuda kwezvikonzero zviri pachena.

Imwe Yekupedzisira Chiziviso

Usaramba uchirova bhiza rakafa!

Kune dzimwe nguva apo kugona kwako kwekuita kuchakundikana nekuti rimwe bato rinogona kunge risingafarire kana kusada kuita hurukuro.

Izvi zvinogona kuve zvechaunga chose chezvikonzero, mazhinji kana ese ayo ari pamusoro pekutonga kwako.

Usatora izvi pachako .

Ingo edza kuunza hurukuro yacho nekukurumidza nekukasira sezvinobvira usingaite hutsinye. Zviise pasi kuti uwane uye fambira mberi!

Kupfupisa Zvinhu Kumusoro

Usaedze kuisa kanopfuura rimwe remazano aya panguva kana kuti ungangonzwa kunetseka uye kunetseka izvo zvinozomisa hurukuro ipapo.

Wadii kuedza imwe chete? Kana iwe uchinzwa kuti wakazvigona - uye netarisiro kuti zvatotanga kuita kuti hurukuro dzifambe zvishoma zvishoma zvinonzwisisika - iwe unozonzwa uine chivimbo nezvekushandisa mamwe matekinoroji kuenda kumberi.

Mimwe yemazano ari pamusoro anogona kutora zvishoma kurovera uye kufungisisa, asi iyo mibairo iyo iwe yauchakohwa kubva mukusimudzira hunyanzvi hwako semunhu wekukurukura unenge wakakodzera kukosha.

Pachave nezvikwereti muhupenyu hwako hwehunyanzvi uye hwemagariro uye (kana iwe usina kuroora uye uchichengeta kutarisa kune mumwe wehupenyu hwakakwana) hwako hwepamoyo, zvakare!

Izwi rekupedzisira rinoenda kuna nyanduri weBritish David Whyte:

“Hurukuro chaiyo inogara iine kukoka. Uri kukoka mumwe munhu kuti azvizivise kwaari kana kuti azvizivise kwauri, kuti akuudze kuti ndivanaani kana zvavanoda. ”