Mukutanga kwekukomba kwekufambidzana, uye mukati memavhiki ekutanga ehukama, pane zvimwe zviratidzo zvekuziva izvo zvinogona kuratidza kuti mumwe munhu munhurume.
Izwi rakapamhamha rinoshandiswa kutsanangura akasiyana maitiro ndewe 'rudo kubhomba' uye nekunzwisisa kuti chii, iwe unenge wakashongedzerwa zvirinani kuti utarise narcissistic chikara vasati vanyatsokukwezva kuti upinde mumusungo wavo.
Rudo kubhomba kuyedza kumhanyisa kuberekwa uye kukura kwemanzwiro mukati memunhu anenge akuvadzwa nekugadzira iyo yakanyanya mamiriro erudo nekunamata. Yakagadzirirwa kudzikisira kuchengetedzwa kwechisikirwo kwemunhu kuitira kuti vasabvunze mafambiro uye nekukurumidza hukama hwakananga mukati.
chii chiri chokwadi chinonakidza nezvangu
Inoita izvi nekuwedzera zvinhu zve nyonganiso, kubata kumeso, kuvimba, nemhepo ye destiny mupinde.
Kuvhiringidzika inoitika nekuda kwekuwanda kwekutaurirana kunoitika pakati pevaviri vasingaregi mameseji, kufona kazhinji, kutaurirana pasocial media, uye chishuwo chakasimba chekusangana mumunhu kakawanda sezvinobvira.
Zvinogona kunzwa zvakanyanya kuremadza kuve pamagumo ekugashirwa kwakadaro bhomba, iyo yakagadzirirwa kugonesa akabatwa neakasarudzika uye akasarudzika chisungo chavainacho narcissist.
Asati amboona chero chinhu chakaita senge zvisati zvaitika, akabatwa anotanga kutenda kuti ichi chinhu chakakosha, chimwe chinhu chakanaka, kudanana senge kwaunoona mumabhaisikopo - chamupupuri chemufaro, zvese zvinonakidza uye zvinotyisa.
Kubata kumeso iripo mune inguva yese yekufambidzana, asi kana iri nyaya yerudo bhomba, inodarika kune imwe nhanho yese. Kutaurirana kwese kunofanirwa kusanganisira kurumbidza kwakawanda kunyengerera munhu anenge akuvadzwa uye nekupa chinenge chisingadzoreke chinonzwa-chakanaka chavanozowana chakaoma kuzvipira.
Kana munhu akabatwa anogara achinzwa kunaka, kushamisa, uye kukwana kweimwe bato achifunga kuti ndizvo, zvinopa kwavo ego kukurudzira chaiko uye kunokanganisa shanduko yemuviri neyemakemikari muhuropi hwavo. Izvi zvinongoshanda kusimbisa kukwezva kwavo kune narcissist.
Kazhinji munhu anenge arwadziswa anenge ari mumwe munhu anotambura nekuzviremekedza (chinangwa chakanangana nemunyengeri) uye nekudaro kurumbidzwa nenzira iyi kunogona kunzwa kusiri kwavo - kunyangwe kunyepa - asi vachazobatwa kuti vaone chinangwa chaicho yemashoko ese emutsa.
Kuvimbika ndechimwe chinhu icho narcissist anowanzoedza kuunza mavhiki mashoma muitiro wekufambidzana. Kunyangwe vari mune ino nhanho yeumbryonic, ivo vachatanga kuzivisa kuti vane chokwadi sei chehukama, kuti vanofarira sei kupedza nguva neiye akabatwa, uye kunyangwe zvavari kudanana navo.
nhetembo dzekusuwa mudiwa
Ivo vanosundira nyajambwa pamanzwiro avo pachavo mukuedza kuti vadzorere kuzivisa kwerudo uye chidakadaka. Vanoita izvi kuti vawedzere kuvhiringidza munhu anenge akuvadzwa nezve manzwiro avari kuita chaizvo.
Vanotanga kudya zvakanyanya uye zvakawandisa zvenguva yemunhu uye simba rake - zvichivatadzisa kuona vamwe vanhu kazhinji. Kuzviparadzanisa uku kunogona kucherechedzwa neshamwari uye mhuri yemunhu akuvadzwa, asi kazhinji zvinoregererwa kunze sekungoshuvira kweiye akabirwa ivo pachavo.
Nekudzora kuwanikwa kwerudo uye rudo, narcissist anogona kuzviisa munzvimbo yekukosha kukuru. Sezvo kusangana nevamwe kuchiderera, iko chete sosi yekudziya nerudo inowanikwa kune anenge akuvadzwa zvinobva kune wavakangowana mudiwa.
Kana izvi zvikaenderera mberi, zvakadzika pasi pemashiripiti ivo vanowira pakupedzisira ivo vanotanga kuona iyo narcissist semumwe munhu wavasingakwanise kurarama vasina.
Zvimwe zvakakosha kuverenga narcissist (chinyorwa chinoenderera pazasi):
- Mitauro yeNarcissist Inoshandisa Kuzvibata Uye Kushungurudza Avo Vakatambudzwa
- Kurwadzisa A Narcissist
- Kugadzirisa Maitiro Paunenge Uchisiya A Narcissistic Partner Kuseri
- Iwo matanhatu Masiki A Narcissist Anogona Kupfeka (Uye Maitiro Ekuvatarisa iwo)
- Maitiro ANarcissist Kufungidzira KweGrandeur Kunodzivirira Ivo Kuti Varege Kuda Iwe
- Iyo Covert Narcissist: Anonyara Sei, Anopindirana Mhando Anogona Kuva maNarcissist Zvakare
Destiny ndiyo nzira iyo narcissist inoda kuratidza hukama. Vachishandisa mitsara yakadai sekuti 'Handisati ndambonzwa nenzira iyi nezve chero munhu kare' uye 'Handitende kuti takawanana,' vanopenda mufananidzo izvo izvi zvaifanirwa kuve.
Munhu akabatwa, pfungwa dzavo dzakaputirwa nenyonganiso, haakwanise kunyatsoongorora kukosha kwezvirevo izvi. Ivo vanozopedzisira vatora ivo vakatarisana uye izvi zvinongokwidziridza manzwiro avo kune mumwe munhu.
Pakupedzisira ivo, zvakare, vanotanga kutenda kuti musangano wavo waive mugumo. Ivo havakwanisi kuenzanisa yavo yazvino chiitiko kune chero chinhu kubva kare - izvi zvinofanirwa kureva kuti rudo, handiti? Chii chimwe chingave icho?
Nezvishandiso izvi zvina, mutengesi anokwanisa kurongedza kwemwedzi 'yekubatana kwekudanana munguva yemavhiki chete. Ivo vanogona kunyatso mhanyisa yakajairika maitiro ehukama uye vachisvetuka chikamu icho avo wavakabatiswa angamira kumashure vozvibvunza ivo pachavo kana izvi zviri izvo zvavanonyatsoda.
Pane kudaro, nekuda kwekushamisika kunoita narcissist, uye nemabatiro avanoita kuti vazivana navo, akabatwa anoongorora izvi zvakajairika.
Pakarepo, uye padhuze nekudzora kweiye akabatwa, anonyudza akabudirira kushandura mazuva ekutanga kuita hukama hwakakomba, hwakazara-neropa, hwakasimba panyama nepfungwa.
Vakapofumadza mudiwa wavo nemanyepo, kurumbidza kwekunyepa, manzwiro asina kumbovapo, uye ngano dzeramangwana rinofadza uye rine zvibereko pamwechete.
Anoda Bhomba Mushure mekuzorora
Zano iri haringoshandiswi neva narcissist panguva yekutanga chikamu chehukama zvakare zvakajairika mushure mekurambana.
zvinhu zvisinganzwisisike zvekuita kana iwe uchinetseka
Nepo kupatsanurwa kwacho kungave kwaisanganisira hutsinye hwakakura uye hutsinye hunhu, kana narcissist akatsunga kumutsiridza hukama, vanozobatidza zvakare runako uye voshandisa rudo rwebhomba kuti vadzose zvekare ex yavo.
Maitiro acho haachinje zvakanyanya - mabhomba emagwaro, mafoni, tsamba, maemail, midhiya enhau, uye chero imwe nzira yekutaurirana yavanogona kufunga nezvayo.
Ivo vachataura rudo rwavo rusingagumi kune wavakabiridzira uye voti zvese zvakaitika hazvifanire kuramba mugumo wehukama - kuti chaingova blip munzira yavaifanirwa kufamba pamwe chete.
Kubata kumeso, uko kunenge kuri kuwedzera kushomeka sezvo hukama hwacho hwafambira mberi, huchabuda kubva kuhope kusvika pakuedzazve kurova hunhu hwemunhu anenge arwadziswa.
Zvese izvi zvakagadzirirwa kudzikisira mamiriro acho nekusahadzika uye nekuvhiringidzika, kuita kuti munhu akabatwa afunge nezve sarudzo yavo uye vatore mumwe wavo adzoke.
Pamwoyo payo, rudo rwekuputika bhomba chishandiso chisina kujeka chine zvishoma munzira yefesese neunyanzvi. Iyo inoshandisa chisimba chisimba uye kushingirira kuzadzisa chinangwa chayo, asi izvi zvakare kukanganisa kwayo kukuru zvinogona kuve nyore kuona kana iwe uchinge waziva chekutarisira. Ndinovimba chinyorwa ichi chakakupa iyo zivo iwe yaunoda kuti uzive zviratidzo uye uzviparadzanise kubva kune narcissist vasati vakwanisa kukumanikidza iwe kuita hukama.
Izvo zvinofanirwa, zvisinei, kucherechedzwa kuti zviratidzo zverudzi urwu hazvireve kuti zvinoratidza kubatanidzwa kwemunyengeri. Rudo rwechokwadi dzimwe nguva runogona kukurumidza uye hasha, runogona kuzara nekuzivisa kwekukwezva uye rudo, uye runogona kunzwa sekunge rwakafanirwa kuve. Musiyano wekutanga ndewekuti rudo rwechokwadi rwune mativi maviri runonzwa zvakanaka kune vese vanhu uye pane kushomeka kwakasiyana kwekuvhiringidzika kuripo.
Kana iwe uchida kuverenga zvakawanda nezve narcissists uye hunhu hwehunhu, tinya pano kushanyira chikamu chedu chakazvipira cheichi chirwere uko iwe unowana zvimwe zvakawanda zvinobatsira uye zvekuvhura maziso.
apo iwe usingazive zvekuita nehupenyu hwako
Wakambozviwana iwe uri muhukama nemunyori? Wakawana here rudo rwebhomba sezvarwatsanangurwa pamusoro? Siya mhinduro uye tizivise tsananguro yako.
