Rudo chinhu chakanakisa, asi narcissist haango gona kunzwa kana kuzviratidza. Uye pane chimwe chikonzero chakareruka nei.
Kana iwe ukanyura mukati mepfungwa yemunyengeri (uye chenjera kana uchidaro), iwe uchaona kuti pfungwa dzavo dzinotenderedza zvakangozvitenderedza ivo pachavo, zvavanoda, zvishuwo zvavo, uye nemabatiro avanogona kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvavo.
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Kwavari, vamwe vanhu zvinhu zvekushandisa kuti vabatsirwe uye kugutsikana. Ivo vanotenda kuti vari pamusoro pevose uye chero ani zvake, uye iko kunyengera kwekukura ndicho chikonzero chekutanga nei vasingakwanise kunzwa izvo iwe neni zvatingati rudo.
Rudo, kudanana kana neimwe nzira, ndiko kubatana iko kusangana kwemweya umo vanhu vaviri vanobatana pamwe chete uye vachigovana zvakadzika-zvigaro kutarisirana. Kuti hukama uhu huvepo, mapato ese anofanirwa kuona kupfuura ekunze kwemunhu uye apupure chokwadi chakavigwa pasi. Ivo vanofanirwa kugashirana semafungiro ehunhu hwavo uye, zvakanyanya kukosha, sevakaenzana.
Zvakaenzana, mupfungwa iyi, zvinoreva kuve wakafanira kuremekedzwa kwakafanana, kurapwa, uye kuchengetwa sechimwe chisikwa chipenyu. Uye rudo haruratidzirwe kune vamwe vanhu zvinongobvira kuti unzwe rudo uye uye kubva kunhengo dzeumambo mhuka.
Mumwe anonyengerera, zvisinei, haatarise vamwe kuva vakaenzana navo munzira ipi neipi. Ivo vanotenda zvechokwadi kuti ivo vari nani, vanokodzera, uye vakuru mune angangoita ese mativi.
Nekudaro, ivo vanogara pazvigadziko zvavo vakatitarisa pasi isu vanhuwo zvavo vanozvidza. Zvinoshamisika here, saka, kuti narcissist haagone kuumba mhando dzehukama hwepedyo dzinova hwaro hwerudo?
Kana vasingakwanise kubvuma kuti mumwe munhu angave akaenzana zvakaenzana uye akakodzera sezvavari, vanogona sei kuita nenzira inoratidza kubatana uku? Vanogona sei kuda?
Mhinduro pfupi: havakwanise.
Zvinorevei Narcissist Kana Ivo Vachitaura Nezverudo?
Kusakwanisa kwavo kuona chero munhu seyakaenzana yavo kunogona kudzivirira narcissist kubva kuda, asi hazvivatadzise kuzivisa kwavo 'rudo' kune vamwe. Chokwadi, kuzivisa nguva isati yakwana yerudo rwavo rusingaperi inzira inodiwa yevakawanda vanotaura nezvezvinhu zvinozivikanwa rudo kubhomba .
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Izvo zvisinganyatso kujekesa ndezvekuti narcissists vanozvitenda ivo pachavo kuti vari kuve nerudo mune kwayo yakaoma uye yakasvibisa pfungwa. Tinogona kuziva kuti chavanonzwa harusi rudo, asi vanogona kufunga, kubva pakufunga kwepfungwa, kuti ndizvo.
Uyu mubvunzo, asi uchinakidza, hauna basa zvakanyanya. Ivo havanzwe rudo, asi chimwe chinhu zvachose.
Iko kukanganisa kwavanoita kunovhiringidza iyo yakadzika, inhereal kunzwa kwerudo nevepamusoro chimiro chendangariro chekunyepedzera . Panyaya yekudyidzana kudyidzana, vanhu vazhinji vanozopinda muchikamu chekutorwa panguva iyo chinhu chechishuwo chavo chisinga tsvete kure nepfungwa dzavo. Asi, kana hukama hukachengetedzwa, izvi zvinokura mukubatana kwerudo kunotsanangurwa pamusoro.
A narcissist, zvakadaro, anozonamira mune yekusingaperi infatuation chikamu. Vanozoita kunge vasingatarisi kutenderedza uye kune mumwe wavo, vachivashandisa sechinhu chekupa narcissistic.
Narcissistic kupihwa kunodzikira kune iye akabatwa - icho chinhu chavo chekunyepedzera - kupa iye narcissist nehanya kwavanoshuvira kupfuura zvimwe zvese. Vazhinji narcissist, zvimwe kunze kwe iyo yakavanzika mhando , vanozowana kukwezva kwekutarisa kuri nyore kusingadzivisike, uye kutariswa kwemhando ipi neipi kunogutsa zvishuwo zvavo…
… Kwenguva pfupi.
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Iwe unoona, narcissist anodyisa uku kucherechedzwa uye simba zvarinounza kuitira kusimbisa iko kutenda kwavanako mukati mavo semunhu ari pamusoro. Senge chero rudzi rwechikafu, chikafu chenguva dzose chinodiwa kuitira kuti ugare wakaguta.
Nekudaro, kana narcissist yatora mudiwa, vanozviita zvakanyanya kuitira kuti vave nechokwadi chekuvimbika uye kwakajairika kwekutarisirwa. Saizvozvowo, pavanosarudza mumwe wavanoshanda naye, shamwari, kana nhengo yemhuri semunhu akabatwa, ivowo kutsvaga izvozvi kutarisisa .
Iyi narcissistic kupihwa, uye iyo yekunyepedzera iyo inowanzo kutungamira kune, inogona kutariswa seinotsiva rudo. A narcissist anozochishuvira zvakanyanya sekuda kwedu tese kuda kudiwa. Vanozonzwa kugutsikana kukuru pavakachiwana, vakapihwa simba nacho, uye vosemburwa nekuchirega.
Ivo vanogona kufunga kuti izvo zvavanonzwa rudo, asi kana iwe ukatarisa padyo padyo, zvinoita sechimwe chinhu zvakanyanya munzira dzekuvimbika. Chokwadi, hukama hwehukama hunogona kupedzisira hwave vanobatirana navo uko narcissist anovimba nerimwe bato kutariswa uye kunamatwa, nepo ivo, vachidzoka, vanovimba narcissist kuti avaudze mararamiro (kazhinji nekuda kwekuparadzwa kwehunhu hwavo mushure memwedzi kana makore ekushungurudzwa kwepfungwa).
Aya marudzi ehukama anogona kutaridza senge ane rudo pamusoro, asi izvi hazvisi zvinopfuura hutete hutete hunovanza chokwadi chakavanda pazasi. Rudo runogona kunge riri mumazwi echirumo eanonyudza, asi vanoshaya kunzwisisa kwedudziro yaro yechokwadi. Ivo vanokanganisa kwavo kwekunyepedzera, kuda kwavo kwekushandisa narcissistic, uye kugutsikana kwavanonzwa pakuigamuchira, kwerudo.
Kubudikidza nekunyepedzera kwavo kwekuremekedza kutenda kwavo kwechokwadi kwekuti ivo vanhu vakakwirira, murwi wenhau anorasikirwa nekwaniso yavo yekuumba kubatana kune vamwe vanhu. Ivo egos havazozvibvumire ivo pachavo kuti vadzoseredzwe kune chinzvimbo chekuenzana nechero ani, uye nekuda kweichi chikonzero, simba rerudo rwechokwadi rinogara riripo zvachose muhukama hupi hwavari chikamu chavo.
Kunyangwe kana vasingatendi ivo vari mukati mehusiku hwerudo rwechokwadi, zvakachengeteka kutaura kuti hapana hukama hwehukama hwemhando ipi neipi hwakavakirwa pane ino yakapfuma, yakasvibisa, uye inonyanya kutsvakwa mushure mekunzwa.
