Mumwe chete narcissistic kushungurudzwa chirongwa iwe uchazomboda.
Dzvanya apa kuti udzidze zvimwe.
Kune narcissist muhupenyu hwako. Zvinosuruvarisa uye iwe pasina mubvunzo unoshuva kuti dai zvisiri izvo, asi ndizvo.
Iko kune narcissist muhupenyu hwako uye iwe une sarudzo shoma kunze kwekudyidzana navo.
- Wakatongerwa kurarama hupenyu hwako hwese sepweti mumutambo wavo usingagumi?
- Unofanira kutsungirira kushungurudzwa kwavo here?
- Vachagara vakabata here pamusoro pako?
Kwete. Kwete. Kwete.
Iye narcissist anogona kunge ari muhupenyu hwako,asi havafanirwe kunge vari mumusoro mako!
Maitiro ari pazasi anoda kurovedzwa uye hauzouwana zvakanaka kekutanga, asi, kana akashandiswa zvakaenzana, anozoisa chinhambwe (kunyanya chemoyo, asiwo chemuviri kune imwe nhanho) pakati pako neanokubhinya.
Inozivikanwa se Grey Rock Nzira .
Pfungwa yakakosha ndeyekuti iwe ubatanidze kunakidzwa kwese uye kufara kweizvozvo chaizvo: grey dombo.
Mhando yedombo yausingatarise kaviri. Rudzi rwarebwe rinoramba risingatariswe uye risingazivikanwe paunopfuura.
Mutsara unoti 'Grey Rock Method' yakatanga kugadzirwa na blogger Skylar mune ino chinyorwa pawebhusaiti yake: https://180rule.com/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/ mushure mekukurukurirana kwakaipisisa kwaaive nako neumwe mutorwa. Iwe unofanirwa zvirokwazvo kuenda uye uverenge iyo chinyorwa mushure mekupedza pano.
Ndiani Anofanirwa Kushandisa Iyo Grey Rock Nzira?
Nzira inoshanda kwazvo yeku bata nemutengesi kuenda kusaonana.
Vacheke kunze zvakanaka uye kudzivirira chero fomu rekubatana chero. Chinja yako nhamba, email, vadzivise pasocial media, uye kunyange kutamira kumba kana uchifanira.
Nehurombo, zvinhu hazvisi nyore nguva dzose.
Pane dzimwe nguva apo kucheka narcissist kunze zvachose hakusi kushanda.
Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uri mune chero eanotevera mafungidziro, Grey Rock inogona kunge iri yako yakanyanya kunaka sarudzo:
- une mwana kana vana vane narcissistic ex
- iwe une narcissist waunoshanda naye kana bhosi mune basa raunonzwa kusada kana kusakwanisa kusiya panguva ino panguva (kunyangwe iwe uchifanira kuzviita chinangwa chako chenguva refu kuti uwane basa mune imwe kambani kana dhipatimendi)
- iwe une vabereki ve narcissist kana nhengo dzemhuri dzauchazofanira kuona pano neapo pazviitiko zvemhuri
Nei Kuenda Grey Rock Kunoshanda?
Wako narcissist mutambi mumwe uyo akapfeka mamask mazhinji uye inotamba akawanda mabasa. Ivo vanhu muhupenyu hwavo - kusanganisira imi - ndivo vanotsigira vakakanda mune yavo, yavo yega sipo opera.
Icho chikamu cherudo, chikamu mutambo, chikamu chiito, chikamu chinonakidza, chikamu chinonakidza (majee anogara ari pauri), uye kunyangwe chikamu chinotyisa (mune izvo chiri chikara chinotyisa uye iwe uri munhu wavo anotya).
Chiitiko chega chega mune ino mhenyu chiito sipo opera inofanirwa kuchengetedza iyo narcissist kufarira uye kuita. Ivo vanonyora nyaya dzenyaya uye vatungamire vamwe vatambi kuburikidza nekunyengerera uye kumanikidza kuitira kuti vafarirwe kwazvo.
Vachave nechokwadi chekuti ivo - nyeredzi yeshoo - vanogashira gadziriso yavo yekutarisisa, kunamatwa, kana kurumbidzwa kubva kune vamwe vatambi.
Kunyangwe iwe uchiita basa rakakura senge mumwe wako kana nhengo yemhuri, kana chikamu chidiki senge pane dzimwe nguva waunoziva, kutora nzira yeGrey Rock inzira inoshanda yekuzvinyora iwe kubva munhevedzano zvachose.
Chimbofungidzira uchiona chiitiko kubva kuchiratidziro kana firimu umo mumwe munhu asingapi chinhu munzira yemanzwiro kana hurukuro inonakidza. Zvingafinha sei izvozvo? Iwe ungangodaro uchinjira kune chimwe chinhu, handiti?
Zvakanaka, narcissist akafanana.
Kana zviono zvako pamwe zvisingakwanise kuvapa iwo iwo mwero wekufara, ivo vanomanikidzwa kuzvitsvaga kumwe kunhu.
Nekuramba wakasindimara usingatenderi kune chirahwe cheanarcissist uye kukurudzira, iwe unoderedza kukosha kwako mumaziso avo.
Ivo vanoda maOscar-anokunda maratidziro nepo zviitiko zvako zvichiperera pane yekucheka imba yepasi.
Pakupedzisira, ivo vanonzwa kudiwa kwekukuita iwe chinhu kunze kwekuwedzera mumwe munhu anopinda mukati nekunze kumashure asina kana chikamu chekutaura zvachose.
Ivo vanogona vachiri kuyedza kusangana newe nguva nenguva kuitira kuti vaone kana iwe uine izvo zvinotora kuti uve mumwe wenyanzvi-nyeredzi zvakare, asi chero bedzi iwe uchiramba uchinetsa uye sedombo-senge, haufe wakambozviita yapfuura nhanho yekuongorora.
Iyi ingori imwe nzira yekumisikidza pfungwa ye narcissistic kupihwa. Kufungidzira kubva kuchinyorwa chakabatanidzwa pamusoro:
… Iwe uye nehanya iwe yaunopa uri muropa ivo vanofanirwa kugamuchira 'gadziriso' nguva nenguva uye kuitira kugutsa hunhu hwavo. […] Ukaramba uchivapa zvavanoda, ivo vacharamba vachikukunda pane zvavanoshuvira nezvido zvavo.
Kuti urondedzere izvi kune yedu sipo opera fananidzo: narcissist anoda kuti iwe uve hunhu hunounza mutambo uye kunakidzwa muhupenyu hwavo, uye kana ukaramba uchitamba basa iri, ivo vacharamba vachikunyorera nyaya dzenyaya.
Unoenda Sei Grey Rock?
Pane chirevo chekare chakakodzera pano: haugone kuwana ropa kubva padombo.
Mune ino kesi, iwe ndiwe dombo (kana dombo) uye ropa chero hunhu hunopa iyo narcissist nerubatsiro rwavanoshuvira.
Chengetedza nhaurirano kune yakaderera zvachose.Kana iwe usingafanire kutaura navo, usadaro.
Gara mumotokari kana iwe uchisiya vana vako kumba kwavo. Garai kune imwe mugumo petafura yekudya kwemhuri. Kumbira kuti ubvise tafura kure navo kubasa. Dzivisa kushamwaridzana navo zvakanyanya sezvinobvira.
Asi usaite chinhu chikuru kubva pairi sezvo izvi zvichizongovapa mabara.
Paunofanirwa kutaura navo, namatira kuzvinhu zvinonetesa semamiriro ekunze. Kana vakabvunza mibvunzo, ipa mhinduro pfupi, dzisingakurudzire dzisingakwanise kutungamira kune imwe hurukuro.
Vanobvunza kuti, 'uri sei?' uye iwe unopindura 'zvakanaka, ndatenda.'
Vanobvunza, 'wakaitei paweekend?' uye iwe unodavirira 'Ndaiwacha mbichana uye ndikacheka uswa.'
Kana vakapindura vachiti 'wave kufinha,' ingogutsurira musoro uye kunyemwerera muchibvumirana (havafanirwe kuziva kuti haubvumirane nemoyo wese neshoko iro).
Ehe yakapusa uye kwete zvinokwana pazvinenge zvakakodzera, asi dzimwe nguva haungade kuzvipira kumhinduro kana zvichireva kupa maonero. Muzviitiko izvi isingasunge 'hmmmm,' 'pamwe,' kana 'tichaona' ichaita.
Hazvina kumboitika taura nezve hupenyu hwako, kunyangwe zvidiki zvidiki.
Ivo vanozokochekera nzwara dzavo mune chero chidimbu cheruzivo iwe chaunopa uye wochishandisa kuyedza nekuenderera mberi nehurukuro uye kubvisa narcissistic kupihwa kubva kwauri.
Ivo vanoda kuziva izvo zvaunokoshesa muhupenyu hwako izvozvi. Ivo vanochiva izvo zvaunazvo (zvisinei kuti ndezvipi), uye kana vasingakwanise kuva nazvo, vachatsvaga kuitora kubva kwauri neimwe nzira.
Usavape iwo mukana ramba wakavanzika nezve hupenyu hwako hutsva pasina ivo.
Hazvina kumboitika Vaudze kuti uri kuita mushe sei (zvakanyanya sezvazvinogona kukufadza kukwiza mhuno yavo mairi).
Rangarira, ivo vanofambiswa neayo egos, uye chero zano rekuti iwe uri nani kunze kwavo kana kuti ivo neimwe nzira vakaderera kwauri uchaonekwa sekuzvidza hunhu hwavo.
Ivo vanozviona vari pamusoro peumwe neumwe muzvinhu zvese, uye kana iwe uchireva kuti urikuita zvirinani kupfuura zvavari, zvichavashatirisa.
USA vabvunze mibvunzo.
Kunyangwe zvikaita senge zvisingakuvadzi hurukuro diki, paunongobatana navo uye uchivabvunza nezve hupenyu hwavo, zvinovapa mwenje wegirinhi kuti vabvise runyorwa rwezvavanenge vaita (ingave ichokwadi kana zvakagadzirwa) kukuzvidza.
Kana kuti vangangopopota nezve munhu wavanozivana naye kuti vaone kana muchaita neimwe nzira. Usavape chikuva. Usatengese kune kwavo kuda kwekutarisirwa.
Edza kunamatira chokwadi pose pazvinogoneka.
Manheru evabereki ari na7pm neChitatu. Chiremba akavapa (mwanakomana / mwanasikana wako) mishonga inorwisa mabhakitiriya kuti atore maawa masere ese. Tine vashanu vatsva vatengi mwedzi uno. Chirevo icho narcissist achanetseka kupokana nekuti ivo havasi pasi pekududzirwa. Chinhu chekupedzisira chauri kuda kuita kupokana navo.
Dzivisa kutaura nezve zvakapfuura chero zvodii.
Iwe haudi kushanyirazve iyo nguva yerima kunyangwe kana vakadaro. Nekuunza nhoroondo yako, iwe uri panjodzi yekumutswazve kwemaronda ekare uye nharo. Iwe zvakare uchatarisana nemhosva mutambo uyo usati uri mutambo waunogona kuhwina.
Kana izvi zvikaitika, zano rimwe rinogona kubatsira kuparadzira mamiriro ezvinhu nderekugamuchira pachena mutoro wezvinetso zvamakatarisana pamwe chete (kunyangwe ukasazvigamuchira mukati).
Chero kuyedza kugovera imwe yemhosva pavari kunongo sangana nekuramba, kuzvidzivirira, uye kurwiswa kwauri.
Iyo Grey Rock Method haisi nyore nguva dzose, asi inowanzo shanda. Iwe ungangoda kupopota kwavari dzimwe nguva, asi nekuruma rurimi rwako uye usingavhunduke pavanenge vachiedza kuwana mhinduro, uchavauraya nenzara yemutambo wavanodyisa.
Panzvimbo pekuenda usina izvozvo (izvo zvisiri izvo kwavari), anarcissist anotarisa kumwe kunowanikwa sosi nyowani yekupa.
Zvimwe zvakakosha kuverenga narcissist (chinyorwa chinoenderera pazasi):
- Mitauro yeNarcissist Inoshandisa Kuzvibata Uye Kushungurudza Avo Vakatambudzwa
- 6 Zviratidzo Zvauri Kubata Nayo Ane Mwero Narcissist (Asi Zvakadaro A Narcissist)
- Iyo Covert Narcissist: Anonyara Sei, Anopindirana Mhando Anogona Kuva maNarcissist Zvakare
- 7 Kuporesa Kusimbisa Kwevakatambudzwa Nekushungurudzwa kweNarcissistic
- Kurwadzisa A Narcissist
- Kugadzirisa Maitiro Paunenge Uchisiya A Narcissistic Partner Kuseri
Kuenda Grey Dombo Muchitarisiko
Pamusoro pekudyidzana kwako narcissist, iwe unogona zvakare kuyedza kutevedzera dombo grey maererano nezvamunoita uye kuti ndezvipi zvikamu zvehupenyu hwako zvinoonekwa kwavari.
Kana narcissist ari wekare-mudiwa, edza kuoneka seyakajeka sezvinobvira kana uchifanira kuvaona. VaNarcissist vane ziso repamusoro, nekudaro nekuzviita mushoma zvinoyevedza, iwe uchabhururuka pasi peadhadhi yavo zviri nyore.
Kana ivo vakataura pamusoro pekutaridzika kwako kwakashata, ngazvipinde munzeve imwe uye kunze kune imwe. Ivo vari kuyedza kuwana mhinduro kubva kwauri, asi kana iwe ukangozvikwenya sekunge hauna hanya, ivo vachatenda kuti iwe wanga usiri iko kubata kwavanofunga kuti iwe uri.
Gadzira maficha matsva ehukama kana uchikwanisa, asi ziva kuti vanogona vachiri kukuwanazve. Saka chinja zvako zvakavanzika marongero kudzora izvo zvavanogona kuona uye shandisa yakajeka pikicha yemufananidzo (kana kunyange imwe isiri yemeso ako) kuitira kuti vazvione zvichinetsa kuedza nekuzeya.
Dzivisa kuwedzeredza mune chero chimiro chavanogona kuona. Enda kune yakasarudzika modhi yemota, dzivirira zvishongo, tenga imba ine mwero (kana vachifanira kumboshanyirwa). Usavatendera kuti vaone chero chinhu chingavaita kuti vafunge kuti uri kuzviitira iwe pachako (nekuda kwezvikonzero zvataurwa pamusoro).
Zvinogona kuita sekunge urikutadzisa hupenyu hwako kuti vabatsirwe, uye mune dzimwe nzira izvi ichokwadi, asi yeuka kuti hapana mota kana imba kana zvimwe zveumbozha zvinokuita kuti ufare nekufamba kwenguva, kunyanya kana ichisimudza narcissist iwe usina sarudzo asi yekutarisana nayo.
Kuva nehupenyu hwakasununguka kubva kwavari sezvazvinogona kunounza iwe runyararo uye mufaro, saka ita zvese zvinotora kuti izvi zviitike.
Chii Chaunotarisira Kubva kuNarcissist
Paunoshandisa iyo Grey Rock Method neye narcissist, iwe unogona kutarisira kuti vazviite nazvo.
Vanogona kusaziva chaizvo zvauri kuita(uye haUFANIRA kuvaudza kuti urikutora nzira iyi), asi ivo vanozoona shanduko muhunhu hwako kwavari.
Mhinduro imwe yakajairika kutsamwa nekuti ndicho chinhu chavasina mubvunzo kuti vakashandisa kasingaperi kukupesana newe munguva yakapfuura. Vanogona kushevedzera uye vanogona kuita nenzira inotyisidzira, asi iwe unofanira kuedza kuramba wakadzikama, wakadzikama, uye wakadzikama mukutarisana nehasha dzavo.
Neimwe nzira, ivo vanogona kukuzvidza iwe kuti ugare wakanyarara kana kupa zvishoma munzira yekuita. Ndiyo nzira yepamoyo yakaita senge kune mumwe munhu asiri kuteerera kuvadaidza mazita, kuvaudza kuti vari kupusa, kana kuseka kumeso kwavo chero chinhu kuti vawane mhinduro.
Zvinosuruvarisa, narcissist haanyari kana zvasvika pakushandisa vamwe kupokana newe. Mukuyedza kukukwevera kumashure mukukonana, zvinogona kusanganisira vana vako, shamwari dzako, mhuri yako, kana vamwe vaunoshanda navo.
Ivo vanoreva nhema uye vanogadzira nyaya pamusoro pako, kuyedza kutsausa vamwe kukumukira iwe, kuita kuti vamwe vakuitire utsinye, kana kutyisidzira avo vaunoitira hanya kunze kwekunge iwe wateerera zvido zvavo.
Gara uchiisa chengetedzo yako uye chengetedzo yeavo vaunotarisira nezve kutanga. Kana kutyisidzira kwacho kuchiratidzika kunge kwechokwadi, tsvaga kuchengetedzwa nekutungamirwa nemapurisa, matare, nevakuru vezvemagariro.
Dzimwe nguva, kana iwe uchiziva kuti kutyisidzira hakusi chinhu asi mazwi, iwe unofanirwa kubata nzvimbo yako, ramba wakatsiga munzira yako yeGrey Rock, uye mirira ivo kuti vanetswe. Vanozopedzisira.
Kana iwe uchikwanisa kutsigira yako isingaite chimiro, iwe uchaona shanduko mune iyo narcissist. Ivo vanogona vachiri kuedza kusundira mabhatani ako, asi ivo vanozozviita zvishoma uye zvishoma kazhinji sezvavanoneta nekutamba mutambo.
Izvi hazvireve kuti vangangodaro, pane imwe nguva mune ramangwana, vatange kuyedza nemoyo wese zvakare - pamwe kana sosi yavo nyowani yekupa yaoma - asi chero bedzi usinga tore chirauro chavo, ivo vanomanikidzwa kutsvaga yavo narcissistic kupihwa kumwe kunhu zvakare.
Chinhu chimwe chete chausingatombotarisira kubva kune narcissist kuzvidemba. Havana kana.
Hazvina mhosva kuti vakakurwadzisa zvakadii uye kunyangwe zvichishungurudza dambudziko rako, ivo vanogamuchira chaizvo zero mhosva kana mutoro wazvo. Saka usaende kunotsvaga.
Njodzi dzekuenda neGrey Rock
Kunyange iri nzira inoshanda yekubata narcissist kana usingaenderane haisiriyo sarudzo, iyo Grey Rock Method ine imwechete kana maviri ezasi.
Kutanga, iwe unogona kuyedza kuishandisa mumamiriro asiri iwo. Kana zvichikwanisika kuti usasangane neanorisissist, unofanirwa kugara uchitora iyi sarudzo.
Iwe unogona kuyedzwa kuti ushandise iyo Grey Rock nzira pane kuti upfuure pese panonetsa yekuvacheka kamwechete uye zvachose, asi izvi hazvikurudzirwe.
Ehe, iwe unogona kunge uchiri nemanzwiro kwavari. Ehe, iwe unogona kubata tariro kuti vanogona kuchinja. Ehe, zvinoda kumwe kusagadzikana uye kuyedza kuve nechokwadi chekuti nzira dzako hadzimbofa dzakayambuka.
Hapana chimwe chezvinhu izvi chinofanirwa kushandiswa sekupembedza kuenda kuGrey Rock kana iwe uine sarudzo yekusaonana.
Kana iwe uine kusangana kusiri madikanwa neye narcissist, saka unozvisiya iwe wakasununguka kune njodzi yekudzokera zvakare mumusungo wavo.
Kunyangwe paunogona kufunga kuti urikuregeredza kwavari, zvinongotora kusvetuka kumwe uye iwe unogona kukurumidza kuzviwana iwe mune isingafarirwe mamiriro awakaedza kutiza kubva.
Njodzi yechipiri yekushandisa nzira iyi ndeyekuti unoirega ichipinda mune zvimwe zvikamu zvehupenyu hwako nehumwe hukama.
Unogona kutanga kushandisa kunyarara uine shamwari kana shamwari nyowani, unogona kusangana nekukura kwekusava nehanya nenyika yakafara, uye unogona kurasikirwa nechido muzvinhu zvese zvawaimbofarira.
Iwe unogona zvakare kurasikirwa nekwaniso yekunzwira tsitsi nevamwe sezvaunozvisimbisa iwe kune chero manzwiro, kutya kuchikusiya iwe uchinetseka mukubiridzira.
sei kugona kukwana mumwe munhu
Iwe unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti zvakanaka - kunyange zvinokurudzirwa - kuvhurika uye kuvimbika kune vamwe vanhu, uye kurega murindi wako pasi uye uvimbe zvakare. Iwe haugone kurarama hupenyu hwasara hupenyu hwako uri chinhambwe kubva kune vamwe vanhu nekuda kwekuti iwe unofanirwa kutora nzira iyoyo neye narcissist.
Iyo Grey Rock Method inogona kunge iri nzira inoshanda yekubata narcissist uyo waunofanirwa kuramba uchitaurirana naye nguva dzose. Iyo inogona kukuchengetedza iwe kubva kune kumwe kukuvara nekuona chokwadi kuti usazove chimwe chezvinangwa zvavo zvakare.
Rangarira, havadi kutamba netoyi inotinetsa, saka iva zvakadaro. Usave varaidzo yavo, ive yavo yepamoyo yavanofarira.
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