Nyika yeva narcissist yakaoma. Pakati penzvimbo uye nemhando dzakasiyana, pane akasiyana maitiro. Zvakadaro, mhedzisiro inoramba yakangofanana kumagumo.
In chinyorwa chakapfuura , Ini ndakakuzivisa iwe kumitsara mitanhatu, uye heano mamwe matanhatu ayo anozopa mwenje pane ino yakaoma uye ine huturu hunhu mhando.
Smear Campaign
Mutambo wese narcissists unotamba ndewe kutonga uye kutonga. Pane imwe nguva narcissist asingagoni kunyepa, kubiridzira, kushandisa, kana kutengesa zvekare, nekuti munhu akabatwa akwanisa pakupedzisira siya hukama , vachatanga chirongwa chema smear vachipesana navo.
Mushandirapamwe uyu wakagadzirirwa zvinorwadzisa wavakazodanana naye zvakanyanya. Sezvo iyo narcissist isina kusimba (asi hombe) ego yakakuvadzwa, ivo vachazviita izvi kuti vatsive kutsiva kwavo.
Hukama hwese hwave hwekushandisa nekushandisa munhu akabatwa (pamoyo, mupfungwa, mumweya, nemari) uyezve, kana nguva yacho yakwana, kusiya munhu iyeye kune mumwe munhu kuti atange narcissistic kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa zvakare.
Asi mutambo hauna kupera sezvanga zvichitarisirwa, saka narcissist anozoigadzirira nekuyedza kuona munhu akakuvadzwa achishandisa chero nzira chero ipi zvayo, pamwe chete kushaya mhosva kana kuzvidemba.
Mimwe mienzaniso yeiyo smear mushandirapamwe ndeiyi:
- Kutswanya mufananidzo wemunhu akuvara kubasa nedonzvo rekuti vadzingwe basa.
- Kubata vamwe vanhu (vakadaidzwa tsoko dzinobhururuka ) kudheerera kana kushungurudza akabatwa.
- Kunyepa shamwari dzakajairika nezve iye akabatwa kuitira kuti ugovaparadzanisa.
Grey Dombo
Ichi chi nzira isiri-yekuita yekuwana dziviriro kubva kune anonyengedza kana 'pasina kusangana' zvisingaiti (kureva kuti narcissist ndiye wake / mukuru wake, kana ivo vaimbova shamwari uye mubereki kumwana wavo).
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Hunhu hwenarcissist hunogadzirwa kuti uwane mhinduro kubva kuvanhu. Kuenda Grey Rock kunoreva kuve unoshanda uye unonakidza sezvazviri chaizvo: grey dombo. Zvinoreva kuve unofinha, uine zvishoma kana kushaya kana chekutaura, kusapa chero ruzivo rwemunhu (kana zvishoma sezvazvinogona), uye kazhinji uchizvibata kunge chifananidzo chinorarama chisingakoshe kune chero mabharanzi anopokana anogona kukandwa narcissist.
Zvakaoma kuita pakutanga, asi zvinova nani nekudzidzira… uye, zvinonyanya kukosha, zvinoshanda. Iye narcissist anozoona kuti kwavo kudenha hakuchina kumutsa mhinduro kubva kune akabatwa. Pakupedzisira, vanozorega uye voenda kune chimwe chinangwa nekuti munhu wacho haachanakidze sezvavaimboita.
Verenga yedu yakazara gwara rekuenda Grey Rock pano .
Narcissistic Kupa
Ndinoziva, zvinonzwika kushamisa. Chii chinonzi heck icho icho?
VaNarcissist havana hunhu hwechokwadi hwemukati ivo vasinganyatso kuziva zvavari uye vane kuzvidzora kwakaderera. Pavakarerwa, zvinokwanisika kuti paive nemubereki mumwe chete uye / kana muchengeti aivabata zvakaipisisa (kushungurudzwa mupfungwa uye / kana kushungurudzika mupfungwa panguva yechikamu kana paudiki hwavo hwese) kana zvakanyanyisa (funga kuti 'ndiwe mambo / mambokadzi uye iwe uchagara uchikwanisa kuita chero chaunoda - vanhu vanogara vachikufadza ”).
Nekuti yavo yemukati haina kunyatso kurerwa, kuremekedzwa kwavo kwese kunobva kunze, kubva kune vamwe vanhu, uye kwete kubva mukati mavo. Naizvozvo, vanove vanovimba zvachose nevamwe vanhu uye nezvavanenge vachiedza kuwana kubva kwavari. Aya ndiwo marambiro avanogara vachishanda uye vasinganetsi.
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Iyo narcissistic kupihwa mune yega yega kesi zvinoenderana nekuti ndezvipi zvido zvemunhu zvinofanirwa kusangana kuburikidza nemumwe munhu. Izvo zvakajairika narcissistic zvekushandisa ndezvi: chikafu, bonde, rudo, pekugara, mari, kuyemura, kutarisisa, uye simba. Izvi zvinowanzo kupihwa nevanhu vanodarika mumwe panguva zvingave kuziva kana kusaziva.
VaNarcissist vanoronga hupenyu hwavo kutenderedza izvi uye vanowanzove nevamwe vanhu vatozvipa - kana mupombi - kungangoitika kuti sosi yavo yekutanga ikatadza zvisingatarisirwi, kana ivo vaneta neiyo 'yekare kupa.'
Zvimwe zvakakosha kuverenga narcissist (chinyorwa chinoenderera pazasi):
- 8 Zvinhu Zvinhu Narcissist Haigone Kukuitira Iwe (Kana Chero Mumwe Munhu)
- Iyo Covert Narcissist: Anonyara Sei, Anopindirana Mhando Anogona Kuva maNarcissist Zvakare
- Maitiro Ekuita NaNarcissist: Iyo Chete Nzira Yakavimbiswa Kushanda
- Iyo Rollercoaster Yekudzoreredza Kubva kuNarcissistic Kushungurudzwa
- 6 Zviratidzo Zvauri Kubata Nayo Ane Mwero Narcissist (Asi Zvakadaro A Narcissist)
- Iyo Grey Rock Nzira YeKubata NaNarcissist Kana Pasina Kubata Isisiri Sarudzo
Kushungurudzika Bonding
Stockholm Syndrome inowana zita rayo kubva mukuba kubhangi muSweden muna 1973. Vakapamba vanoverengeka vakapinda mukuba vakapedzisira vadzivirira uye / kana kuva nehukama nevakaba. Stockholm Syndrome inoitika kana munhu akapambwa akabatwa mukuba anova nehukama hwakasimba pamwe neakabata.
Trauma Bonding yakafanana neStockholm Syndrome. Vakatambudzwa vane zvakadzika uye zvine simba manzwiro kune avo vanopokana vavari muhukama navo. VaNarcissist dzimwe nguva vanobata vanyajambwa zvakanaka uye dzimwe nguva kuvabata zvisina kunaka.
Mhedzisiro yekushungurudzika kwekusungwa pahuropi hwemunhu akafanana zvakanyanya nekupindwa muropa nemushonga. Vanosungirirwa kutenderera yezvakanaka (mufaro) uye zvakaipa (zvinokuvadza):
- Mufaro inoitika muchimiro che, semuenzaniso, rudo kubhomba , kurumbidza, kana bonde rakanaka (iro rinogadzira oxytocin muhuropi hwavo, inonziwo mufaro mahormone).
- Kukuvara zvinoitika nenzira yekushungurudzwa, kuiswa-pasi, uye kupenga kuita mazita mashoma (zvese izvi zvinoburitsa cortisol muhuropi hwemunhu akabatwa iyo mahormone ekudzvinyirira ayo anonyevera nezvengozi).
Kutenderera uku kusingaperi-kwakashata-kunaka, kushata-kunaka,… ndizvo zvinoita kuti vanobatwa vakabatikane pahukama uye ndicho chikonzero chikuru nei zvakavaomera kuti vabude mazviri zvakanaka. Ivo vanofanirwa kurega chaiko kushungurudzwa sekunge kwaive cocaine.
Hukama neve narcissist vari manzwiro rollercoasters nemanzwiro akasimba kwazvo, uye yakawanda yemadhirama uye kusagadzikana. Vanhu vakakurira mumhuri dzakashomeka vaine mubereki mumwe chete wekusazvibata vaibatanidzwa mumhando iyi yesimba munguva yehudiki hwavo. Vakadzidza kuti urwu ndirwo rudo. Naizvozvo, hukama hwerudzi irworwo ndirwo rwavachave vachitsvaga vasingazive sevanhu vakuru, vasingazive nezvekushungurudzwa. 'Zvakajairika' hukama kazhinji hunoratidzika kwavari hunofinha uye hwakati sandarara.
Iye anenge akuvadzwa anozvimisikidza sekuti 'Takapfuura nepakati pamwe chete,' kana iye munhu anoshusha ari iye akaisa anenge arwadziswa mumarwadzo ese nemumatambudziko, pasina kana mhosva kana kudemba nekuzviita.
Triangulation
Triangulation is a toxic dynamic of indirect communication and behaviour dzinosanganisira vanhu vatatu. Hunhu hukuru hwehutatu chiito chekuvanda, hunyengeri, uye kushungurudzwa. Izvo zvinoitika kana munhu mumwe akarwisa, achizvidza, uye / kana achishungurudza mumwe nekubatana kweumwe wechitatu (achiziva kana asingazive).
Iyo Karpman Drama Triangle , Yakagadzirwa naStephen Karpman muna 1968 uye yakashandiswa zvakanyanya mu psychology uye psychotherapy, inoratidzira kudyidzana kunoparadza kunoitika pakati pevanhu vari kupokana. Ine mavara matatu: Anotambudzwa, Mutambudzi, uye Muponesi.
- Iye Akakuvara : inonzwa kuti hupenyu kana vamwe vanhu vanovabata zvakaipa, uye kuti havana kukodzera. Zvakadaro, ivo hapana chavanoita kuti vazvibvise ivo kubva pamamiriro ezvinhu.
- Mutambudzi : ndeyekutevera vamwe vanhu zvakananga kana kuti zvisina kunangana kuvakuvadza, kuvadzidzisa chidzidzo, kana kuvaranga.
- Mununuri : anofunga kuti vamwe vanhu (kazhinji mumwe wake) haagoni kurarama muhupenyu asina iye. Mununuri anofunga kuti kana achinunura mumwe munhu, anozviponesa.
Muhukama neye narcissist, nekukurumidza kana gare gare iyo katatu inogara ichiumbwa. VaNarcissist vanoshandisa hutatu senzira yekusimbisa simba uye kutonga.
Iyi ndiyo Triangle mumusoro wemunyori: Ndiye / iye ndiye Akakuvara. Wake / iye waari kufambidzana naye (yekare narcissistic supply) ndiye Mutambudzi. Iye / mudiwa wake (nyowani nyowani yekupa) ndiye Mununuri.
Iyi ndiyo Chaiyo Shanduro: narcissist ndiye Mutambudzi. Iyezvino mudiwa (wekare narcissistic supply) ndiye Anotambudzwa (uye kazhinji Muponesi, futi). Iye mudiwa nyowani anongova mubatsiri wetsiva (angave achiziva izvi kana kwete).
Mirroring
Sezvo narcissist vasina chokwadi chemukati chemukati, ivo pfekai masiki kuti uwane narcissistic kupihwa kubva kuvanhu. Imwe yemaitiro avanoshandisa kukwezva vanhu mairi magirazi. Ivo vanowanzo shandisa mirroring (inova mureza mutsvuku wakakura kuti utariswe) nevangangodaro vatsva, kuita kunge ivo mapatya mweya 'mutambo wakaitwa kudenga.'
Kana, ngatitii, uyo anogona kubatwa agara achida kuenda kuPeru, saka izvo zvinongoerekana zvave rwendo rwezviroto zveve narcissist, zvakare. Kana iye / iye ari kufunga nezve kusaina kuzvinyorera zvidzidzo, ingangoitika sei nekuti narcissist anga achirevawo kuita izvozvo! Kana iye / ari mudiwa wemabhaisikopo ekare, narcissist anozo, kamwe kamwe, ave neunganidzwa uzere panzvimbo yake.
hapana chandinogona kuita chaiko kubasa
Zvese izvi ndezvekunyepera uye zvepamusoro narcissist anozoedza chete kukodzera bhiri seye 'nyajambwa akakodzera' wemuridzi kuitira kuvanyengedza muhukama. Ivo vakanaka kwazvo pakugadzira magirazi nekuti ivo vanokwanisa kukurumidza kusheedza ruzivo rwakawanda uyezve voita basa rekuita kuti anenge akuvadzwa afunge kuti “Ndizvozvo. Ndawana rudo rwehupenyu hwangu. ”
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