Malignant narcissism chimwe chinhu chakawana hukuru hwekuonekwa munguva pfupi yapfuura. Ikozvino inokurukurwa zvakanyanya munzvimbo dzakasiyana uye nenhamba huru yevanhu, zvirongwa, uye zvinyorwa.
Kana nyaya dzekushungurudzwa kwehukama muhukama hwemarudzi ese dzikauya pachena, mikana ndeyekuti anenge akuvadzwa ari kubata narcissist akaipa.
Sezvo hunhu hunoumba maNarcissists Personality Disorder (NPD) vese vakagara padhuze nepamhepo, saka narcissism pachayo inouyawo mumatanho akasiyana ekuomarara.
Kune avo vanogona kuongororwa kuti vane NPD vasiri vanodada, vasina kudzika, vanoshaya, vane godo, uye shamwari dzakakura, vatinoshanda navo, nhengo dzemhuri, uye vaunozivana navo vaunogona kushamwaridzana navo nguva dzose.
Kunze kwekungove kunonoka uye kuomarara kuda mune chero yakadzika kana inonzwisisika pfungwa, ivo vanogona kuve zvishoma risingakuvadzi, rakaipa kunyangwe (riine izwi rakakoshesa - vanogona kukuvadza kana kuve nyonganyonga).
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Anotyisa narcissist anogara kune imwe mugumo weiyo spectrum uko kwakashata hunhu.
Pamwe pamwe neakanyanya narcissist maitiro, vanhu ava zvakare vanogovana hunhu hweAntisocial Personality Disorder (APD), psychopathy, uye mamwe marudzi ehunhu kusagadzikana.
Kunyange narcissism yakaipa isingazivikanwe sechirwere chakaparadzaniswa nebasa rezvepfungwa, tinogona kuedza kuzvitsanangura zvakadaro.
Ichi chinyorwa chichataura nezvehunhu hunhu hwakanyanya kusunganidzwa neanotyisa narcissist.
Izvo zvakakosha kuti urangarire nguva dzese kuti yega yehunhu hunhu huchave nehunhu hwayo hwayo. Hakuna hunhu huviri hwakafanana uye zvimwe zviratidzo zvinogona kuoneka zvakanyanya kupfuura vamwe sekureva kwemunhu.
Ipo usingade kupa hunhu hwakakosha kupfuura hwumwe, iwo anoratidzika kunge akakwirira mune urwu runyorwa anowirirana zvakanyanya zvakaipa narcissism isu tiri kuyedza kutsanangura. Iwo akananga kuzasi anowanikwa zvakanyanya mumhando dzese dze narcissism.
1. Kusuruvara
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Izvi zvinonyatsorondedzera imwe yeakakosha maitiro eanokuvadza narcissist: sadism.
Sadist anowana mufaro kubva pakurwadziwa, kutambura, uye kunyadziswa kwevamwe. Vanozvidira kukonzera kutambura uku kuti vazvigutse uye kudzora vamwe. Izvi zvinogona kuratidza sekutuka, kushungurudza, uye kunyangwe kurohwa.
Inogona zvakare kuratidza munzira yavanobata nayo mhuka uye nekusava nehanya kwavo nechisimba mumafirimu, zvirongwa zveTV, uye munhau.
2. Proactive Manipulation
Vese vanonyengedza vanoshandisa kune imwe nhanho ndiyo nzira yavo yekuwana zvavanoda.
Asi kubata kunouya nenzira dzakasiyana. Kune avo vari mukana, vanotsvaga kutora mukana kuzviitiko kana kutora mukana kune chero munhu ari munjodzi mamiriro.
Zvino kune vamwe - mhando dzakashata - vanoita zvine hungwaru mukubiridzira kwavo. Neizvi, tinoreva kuti ivo havamirire kuti chimwe chinhu chiitike uye vochipindura, vanozoshandisa sekunge pavanonzwa kuda.
Muchokwadi, ivo vanowana kunakidzwa kwakawanda sekubiridzira vamwe sezvavanoita nekuvaita kuti vatambure. Izvi zvimwe, zvimwe, hazvishamise zvakapihwa kuti kumanikidza kunowanzo kutungamira mukutambura.
Ivo vane simba uye vashoma pakuhwinyisa kwavanoshandisa vamwe, asi ivo vanoshandisa iwo akanyanya akasiyana matekiniki kubva kubatidza gasi ku rudo kubhomba .
Aya zviito zvekubiridzira zvakaverengerwa, zvakarongwa, zvinokudzwa pamusoro pemakore ekushandisa kusvikira vasvika panhongonya yavo yekubudirira. Iyi ndiyo imwe yenjodzi dzakakosha dze narcissism yakaipa - iyo yekuzvisarudzira yemunhu akabatwa yakadzikira uye vanoramba vachingoshaya pekubvisa kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu.
3. Kusagarisana nevanhu
Tichifunga kuti narcissism yakaipa inopinda muAntisocial Personality Disorder, zvingangodaro hazvizouya sechishamiso kunzwa kuti vanoita mhando dzakasiyana dzehunhu husina hukama.
Ivo kazhinji vanoreva nhema , vanobiridzira, vanoba, vanowanzo batwa kusagadzikana kwemamiriro , hasha, uye ruvengo rusina kudenhwa.
Ivo vakamiririra kurwira - chero kurwa, nemumwe munhu, chero nguva. Izvi zvinoumba chikamu cheanoparadza maitiro ehunhu hwehunhu.
4. Hypersensitivity Kune Kushoropodza
Iwe unoshoropodza yakaipa narcissist panjodzi yako.
Vamwe vanotambura neNPD vanodzika pasi pachiyero vanogona kukwanisa kutsoropodza nekuti vanozviona sezvisingafadzi uye kuseka - ivo vakakwana mushure mezvose.
Vamwe vanowana chero nzira yekushoropodza inoshoreka hunhu hwavo uye voenda kunorwiswa nekamwe kamwe kavo.
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Pfungwa yavo yekuzvimirira haina kusimba zvekuti inokuvara nyore, uye kutsiva kana kukwirisa ndiyo chete nzira yavanoziva yekunzwa zvirinani pamusoro pavo.
5. Paranoia
Narcissist yakaipa haivimbi nemunhu. Zvakapesana chaizvo, kutaura zvazviri. Vanonyanya kufungira munhu wese uye vanotenda kuti vamwe vari kunze kuti vazviwane.
Izvi zvingangodaro zvinobva pakuti ivo vanotsvaga kubata vamwe kuti vawane pundutso yavo, uye nekudaro vanotenda kuti munhu wese anoita nenzira imwechete (kana anokwanisa kuita).
Iyi paranoia inogona kutungamira kune imwe nyika ye hypervigilance kwavanogara vachitsvaga kutyisidzirwa. Vanogona kubatikana nezviri kuitwa nevamwe vanhu kazhinji zvichivatungamira kudzora mafambiro evanoitirwa nekuda kwekutya izvo zvavanogona kuita kana kutaura.
6. Kusava Netsitsi
Vese narcissist vanoshaya tsitsi kune imwe nhanho, asi senge ese aya maitiro, kune chakatarisana.
Sezvatakambokurukura, rudzi rwakaipa runofara kurwadzisa nekutambura kune vamwe. Ivo zvakare vanofuratira uye vanokanganisa chero manzwiro anoratidzwa nemumwe munhu.
Chinhu chakakosha kucherechedza ndechekuti narcissists vasina ngozi vanogona kugona kunzwira tsitsi, asi ivo kazhinji - kunyangwe zvisiri nguva dzese - vasingade kuti zviite kuti vavapesedze. Ivo vanogona kutosangana nekusuwa kana kuzvidemba pane imwe nhanho.
Narcissist yakaipa haigone kunzwa kunzwira tsitsi kumira kwakazara. Ivo havagone kuzviisa ivo mune dzimwe shangu kana kuenderana nemanzwiro avo. Iyo ipfungwa yekunze zvachose kwavari. Ivo vanonzwa uye havaratidze kusuwa kwekutambura kupi kwavanokonzera uye aya ndiwo maitiro avanogona kuzvibata nenzira yakaipa kudaro.
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7. Kukundikana Kugamuchira Basa
Hazvisi nyore nguva dzose kutora mutoro wezviito zvedu - izvi hazvisi zvechokwadi chete kune vanonyengedza.
Asi ivo vanoendesa zvinhu kune imwe nhanho. Dzimwe nguva vanozobvuma kuti vakaita neimwe nzira, asi vanozokanganisa chokwadi kuti zviite senge vairuramisirwa pakuita saizvozvo. Ivo vanozowedzeredza mutoro kune chimwe chinhu kana mumwe munhu (mune mamwe mazwi, tamba mutambo wemhosva).
Dzimwe nguva vangaramba kubvuma kuti zviito zvavo zvaive zvisirizvo kana kusagamuchirwa. Ivo vanozoburitsa pachena kuramba mutoro wekukuvara kunokonzerwa kune vamwe kana zvimwe zvisingafadzi mhedzisiro vangave vakakonzera.
8. Kudiwa Kwekutariswa
Ese ma narcissist anoda fomu rekupa. Ndokunge, ivo vanoda kutariswa kazhinji, kunamatwa, uye kudiwa kwevamwe kuitira kuti vazviite vanzwe zvakanaka uye kudzoreredza masimba avo.
Vanozvifudza kubva pairi.
Iyo yepasi-chikamu kana ane mwero narcissist inogona kutsvaga yakanyanya kunaka nzira yekutarisisa kusimbisa pfungwa yavo yekuzvikoshesa. Anotyisa narcissist anogona kuwana rinenge gutsikano rakawandisa kubva mukutarisisa kwakashata futi.
Vanogona kunakidzwa nekutamba huipi uye, sekutaura kwatakaita pamusoro, havatyi kutya kupokana uye kurwira mutsika, njere, kana pfungwa yemuviri.
Hunhu uhu ndohwechokwadi pane husingawirirane zvakanyanya nemunhu anotambura neAntisocial Personality Disorder kana psychopathy.
Ivo kazhinji havana basa nezvinofungwa nevamwe vanhu nezvavo uye dzimwe nguva vanosarudza kuva vega pane nzvimbo yekutarisisa.
9. Kunetseka Kwehukuru
VaNarcissist vane mweya wakakwidziridzwa wekuzvikoshesa kwavo. Ivo vanotenda kuti ivo vari nani kupfuura vamwe munzira dzese: zvinokwezva, vane njere zvakanyanya, vanobudirira zvakanyanya, zvakanyanya kukosha.
Uku kukura ndiko kunokonzera kwavo pfungwa yekodzero . Sezvo ivo vachizvitenda ivo pachavo sevanopfuura vamwe vese, vanoona zvakakodzera kubatwa saizvozvi.
Zvekare, izvi hazvisi zvakajairika kune avo vane APD.
10. Shanje
Nekuti vanozvibata mukuremekedza kwakadai, kana vakasangana nemunhu ane hunhu kana mararamiro kana chinhu chavanochiva, vanopedzwa negodo.
Ivo vanovenga kuona vamwe vane chimwe chinhu chavasina. Kana vachinge vaita, ivo vanozovaderedza uye voisa muridzi wechinhu icho pasi kune rombo rakanaka. Kazhinji vanobvuma kuti mumwe munhu akakodzera chinhu chakadai.
Kana mukana wacho ukazviratidza, havatye kukanganisa budiriro yemumwe munhu nekupa rairo yakaipa kana nechinangwa chekumhura mukurumbira wemunhu iyeye.
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Uye vanofara mukukundikana kwevamwe - pamwe kwete zvakanyanyisa (asi izvi zvingangoita), asi zvirokwazvo mukati vanenge vachiita kutamba kunofadza.
11. Egocentricity
Semunhu anonyengerera, zvese zviri pamusoro pangu, neni, uye neni.Vanozviitira ivo pachavo uye hapana mumwe munhu.
Ivo vanotaura nezve ivo pachavo, vazhinji vanofarira kuve vari mukutarisisa, vanoisa vamwe pasi, uye ivo vanonyanya kunetseka nechitarisiko chavo uye izvo vamwe vanhu vanofunga nezvavo.
Ivo vanoona zvavanotenda sechokwadi chechokwadi, vane maonero mapfupi uye vane moyo wakamanikana, uye vanowanzo nyanyisa kurerutsa mamiriro akaomarara kuti akwane maonero avo.
12. Charm
Vazhinji vanonyengedza vane kugona kubatidza runako pavanenge vachida. Muchokwadi, paunotanga kusangana nemumwe, vanogona kuita sevanhu vane hushamwari, vanogoneka.
Aya ndiwo maitiro avanogona kuteya avo vavanobata. Ivo pfeka chifukidzo uye vakangwarira kuti vasaregedze ichitsvedza kudzamara tarisiro yavo yagadziriswa nenzira kwayo uye yaputswa.
Kunyangwe usiri ivo vavariro yavo huru, ivo vanoedza kushandisa chishamiso chinogumbura kukuita iwe kuti uite mune imwe nzira kana kuva neimwe pfungwa yavo
Zvese ndezvekunyepa uye kunyepa zvechokwadi havataure kana kuita zvinhu zvakanaka nekutendeseka kupi zvako.
Nekudaro, anonyanyisa narcissist anoonekwa semumwe munhu anodzora zvese Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) uye Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD).
Kunyangwe ivo vangangove neaya ese echinyakare maitiro e narcissism, ivo vachasiyana munzira dzakasiyana kubva kumunhu ane APD kana psychopath.
Vachavewo neakanyanya kuwedzeredza narcissistic tendency kupfuura vamwe narcissists, kunyanya munzvimbo dzinosanganisira kukuvadza vamwe, hukasha, uye kumanikidza.
Ivo ndevamwe vakanyanyisa, vanoshusha, uye vane njodzi rudzi rwemunyengeri uye mumwe anofanirwa kudzivirirwa zvachose.
